Hi I don’t have anyone to talk to and appreciate all advice.
We have been married 3 years 2 kids at 1 and 4 been together 5 years but previously got together 11 years ago for a short time before he went on holiday with his ex , yes i was naive and believed him when he said he was on a break with his ex but he had a holiday with her booked and went and that was the end. I was 16 then.
Fast forward , we constantly have arguments now. I think I am almost up to my limits with him and not quite sure what to do now. I confronted him that when he is drunk he is more flirty and a bit over friendly with my female friends. On his 30th when I wasn’t drinking as I was just pregnant at the time and I saw him dancing quite close with my friend and I sat with another couple for sometime but he didnt even bother to look for me. Yes I have some insecurities but then again we do have the history.
We have had a physical fight where we were both quite drunk and that was a bad time.
He isn’t a devoted father that I so wish for him to be. He would rather look on his phone at car forums as he does some car racing as a hobby instead of anything children related. If he does go out with my son it’ll be to a car event. On his instagram he doesn’t have a single picture of my youngest son on there at all and that hurts me. They are all of cars. How come some dads are just so good at being dads! I salute them. The dads that are so hands on and do absolutely everything to make their kids happy, thats not mine. He will play with them maybe 20 minutes then on his phone.
He doesn’t make any suggestions on where to go out with the kids, I always end up making all the decisions.
He disrespects women i feel. On his male group chat , i get there is banter but sometimes just too much. I saw that he wrote things like a holes a hole it’s all about cumming. And getting his money’s worth. So disgusting I know.
Sorry for all the ranting. I know you may be thinking leave him already but I do really love him and he does pay for everything and support the family and I don’t work and look after the kids full time. My eldest is a daddy’s boy and is constantly looking for him. We do have our good times but it can go from good to bad in an instant. My parents are separated which makes me want to make my own marriage work.
I have confronted him in quite an angry way that I don’t like how he gets more closer to people when drunk ie touch their hair or brush against their arm and I turn it around that next time I’m drunk I’ll get up close to another man. It just isn’t right. He never answered me.
Thank you for reading I really needed to talk.