What do you think of this idiot?!?

[Ahhh1234]

Sorry another what would you make of what was on my partners phone type thread!

First of all i dont believe what hes told me, but just wanted to see what other peoples thoughts were as i may have this wrong.

So had a lovely day went for dinner and my partners mum babysat- all good. Went home and and me, him and DS carved a pumpkin-lovely. He then went out to say how he was speaking to a tattooist to do a cover up and showed me some examples this guy had sent him. He scrolled too far by accident and ended up on a pic of a girl in just her underwear taking a 'selfie' in a mirror. Couldn't see her face. Looked like she was in a hotel or something. He quickly scrolled off but i said what was that! He then pretended he didn't know what pic i was going on about and frantically scrolled back through other pics. I said no that pic of that girl- whats that about!

His explanation was my friend sent it too me, he sends me pics of girls all the time claiming 'she's hot' or 'im speaking to this girl'. I said ok then prove that it came from him by going on your chat and click on the media to find that pic. He then started getting defensive saying no, then tried to make an attempt to find it but surprisingly couldn't. Showed me other pics of girls sent from this guy but they would just of girls faces who were fully clothed. Then my partner said oh maybe it was from the work group chat, which this friend is also a part of. Apparently there are about 6 groups set up because 1 member keeps leaving or something and he cant remember what group it came from. So i said ok show me it came from the group-he couldn't. Then he said something about how it was a screenshot and this person sent it and why would he have it but wouldn't let me look at the pic again as i feel he was lying.

Turned it on me getting defensive, saying i was being stupid for accusing him of a girl sending him this pic. No apology or anything just straight on the attack. I said even if you are telling the truth i think its disrespectful to have those pics on your phone of random half naked women. Hes currently not talking to me, like i've done something wrong.

So what do people think of this? Lie or another explanation?

He sounds very defensive and the story changing is suspicious. If his mate sent it he would be able to show you the conversation it came from xxx

hes obviously lying. Hes got history, hes done it before and will continue to do it

But it's OK to drag you down en route to his magical cure?.
Fuck that.

Pants on fire 🔥

I'd BOOST his balls right out the door

Definitely lying.
Sorry op.

What are you going to do now ?

Could be amuture/stollen ex girlfriend photos he's downloaded online. A lot of smart phones put all the pictures taken, received in messages and download into the gallery in chronological order. Either way he's being dishonest with you. But the shady action maybe be a result of embaserment over online activities weather than an affair. Are you very open with him in terms of things like porn?

excatly "nacho" this was what i was trying to get him to do. You would remember who sent it to you and then be able to find it quite easily on the media section. Or even click properties of the phone and it would give you a clue to where it came from. But no he couldnt find it. Funny that!

yes pants are definitely on fire schnitzel

The convoluted story about the instagram accounts indicate a lie - when people lie they put in details that no one honest would, to try and make it more real.

You know the answer here. He doesn't have any issues with self esteem, but he clearly is a dishonest, lying slimeball. So sorry for you OP.

Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me is springing to mind. What do you think you'll do?

Low self esteem/confidence is what makes him do it? No, being a total sleazeball /horn dog is what makes him do it.

Friggen low self esteem/confidence.

Jeez. 😂

I am sorry Ahhh1234. Based on his history and what has happened I agree that he is lying. And what sort of mates pass round photos of women?

Now you know what are you going to do?

1dad yes could be a possibility. Yea i'm open i have no issues with porn at all. Can look all he wants. But this picture did not strike me as a porn type photo. she was kneeing on the floor, both legs together. More like a quick snap to say look what im wearing.

You just need to decide what you're going to do next, OP. You deserve better than this bullshit.

He is very clearly lying. Sorry OP x

He's not sulking with you, OP. He's pretending to sulk so you won't have an opportunity to see him deleting stuff from his phone.

The bastard is lying.

keep instagram accounts? sorry bit confused? this all took part on the messaging app Whatsapp. Yes i agree i am a fool!

blunt yes i know laughable isnt it! Ha

rainbow well apparently the work industry hes in is very 'ladish' and this is the type of 'banter' that happens. Errr no you're just a bloody disrespectful arsehole who disrespects women.

Well luckily when we split i moved out and got my own place. So we currently live apart. So i'm going to call it a day. But he will probably make me life tough regarding our DS and most defiantly will play the victim!

He is full of shit and you know it

So what ? You know he is a dick, so he is going to act like one

Get it over with. He's a sexual incontinent. They never change.

I cannot imagine mates would send photos around of women like this, surely? It sounds suspicious.

Especially with your history I wouldn't believe a word of it. He's lying, whatever the backstory. He just can't be trusted in what he says, and probably also what he says. You've given him enough chances. No shame for you, he failed, that's all there is to it.

also what he does!