As my name suggests I can't sleep. My DH is trying to give up drink and has stopped for the last week. We haven't been getting on for the past month or so but I thought in the last week that things were improving. I found a message on his phone, yes I know I shouldn't have been looking, messaging another women and saying how he missed her. They had met up last week and been texting for a week. Up to this point I trusted him. He's been very low and depressed for a while. The reason I haven't challenged him already is he's very up and down with stopping drinking. But I have to say something as it's eating me up. I feel like shouting at him, but I know this won't help. I think our marriage is over, but how can he become so involved with someone within a week. He's been extremely nice to me. For once we are being gentle with each other, after an acrimonious month of anger on my part due to his drinking. We have kids. I know I have to let him know that I know. I'm scared that he will leave me, as this budding relationship is a lot more exciting than what we have been going through and worse he'll start drinking again.