Me and h have been married 12 years and have 2 kids. We live abroad with my job paying most of the bills, kids school fees, provides the visa etc.
I'm so desperately unhappy and have beem for years. Nothing has changed and its getting better not worse. I tried to leave last year but my eldest cried the whole weekend we were away.
We havent had sex or any form of intimacy for years. He works very long hours and we don't see much of him. He gets a very low wage, however. I also work long hours but am in a very well paid job. I feel like a single mother as it is me who picks kids up from school and has them on my own for the rest of the night. Husband really comes home before the kids bedtimes. He usually takes one day at the weekend off.
He never does anything with the kids. When he is with them they watch tv or play on the ipad. He never takes them out alone. He also very rarely does anything with them with me e.g. he doesn't go to any parents evenings, sports practices, comes on family days out etc.
I go to a beauty salon twice a month and he has the kids then. He complains about this. My mum is staying with me at the moment. I took her to tge beauty salon for a treat. We were gone about 8 hours then I came home and took the kids to their sports practise. Husband has been in a foul mood since saying I should feel guilty about being out all day. That I go out everyweek or stay in bed all weekend. I don't. I go twice a month! Last weekend I spent most of Saturday in bed as I'm sick.
I really want to leave him but I know he will cause a huge drama. I don't think he could financially manage on his wages either. Im contracted to stay with my job another year at least so I couldn't move back to the uk now.
Its all such a mess but I can't imagine going on like this.