Is basic organisation such a lot to ask?

[moonamay]

I've been ill for a few weeks; DH has taken on most of the household tasks in addition to working full time etc.
I am pleased that he's cooking, cleaning (in a fashion) and food shopping, but the house is in complete disarray along with normal routines. I feel stressed to the max.
There is food going off in the fridge (and it smells) vegetables mouldering in the cupboard, stained, filthy dish cloths and towels in the kitchen, dirty clothes in toy boxes etc etc. Im supposed to be resting... bit how?! DH doesn't stop and I feel sorry for him but basic tidying and cleanliness has gone down the pan and I'm so stressed. Also, childcare arrangements/ meal planning is all very up in the air and last minute, it makes me feel ill thinking about it.
so yes, DH is doing everything... but is it such a lot to ask for him to actually put a little thought into it and to take some assertive control?

Oh come off it. His wife does all this on her own when she's well so it's clearly not an impossible task. Not letting food rot and stink in the fridge is a pretty low bar.

lady it's complicated. I haven't "made a rod for my own back", it's just the way things have gone. The prescription formula we have to use is not very easy to mix, took me quite a while to work out a system for doing it efficiently. I do it every day and he just hasn't done it. It's a massive pain in the arse but there we are. Like I say, when he does so much other stuff it's hard to complain about it but it is annoying.

I’m sure I f he were a single parent, he would eventually figure a method that worked for him.

Bitching at your spouse for not running the house the way YOU would isn’t a great thing for your relationship.

Especially when they are doing everything by themselves, including taking care of you.

Well said! Coyote!