my lovely sister has moved away from me.

[DimpledThighs]

Just wantd to tell someone - I am so upset, today my sister has moved from being five minutes down the road to being three hours away. We both have young children and have done a lot of the bringing up together.

Worst thing is that there was no real reason to move except they fancied a change and I am SO much more upset than she is.

Feel all sad a pathetic.

Nothing you can say really but needed an outlet.

Oh that's sad - and you must be feeling hurt that she hasn't considered you in this decision. My sister did something similar - I bought a flat 5 minutes from her, then 6 months later she and BIL moved 30 miles away. I tried not to take it personally, they just wanted to get out of London before starting a family. But once we'd both had children it would have been nice to be able to do more together than we manage now. We only really see each other during the school holidays and everything has to be planned well in advance. It would have been nice to just pop in casually as we used to.

This might not make you feel any better, but my best friend from schooldays is really distraught because her sister, who lives fairly near her at present, is emigrating to Australia soon. Their parents are dead and my friend never married and has no kids. Her sister has three and my friend dotes on them. She's more upset than I can say and says she feels truly alone now.

So sorry, DimpledThighs

(((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) - my sis lives around 200 miles from me ... really miss her being physically close to me but some of our MSN chats are just like being in the same room. Sorry you are hurting ...

she has just called me to say that she has arrived at the new place and it seems so wonderful and feels like the best thing she has ever done.

aww is she older or younger than you?

both my sisters live in different countries. One of them lived in the UK for a bit but then went back. On the day she left, I was completely fine saying goodbye but then went home and spent the whole afternoon sobbing and sulking!

Just think how much more fun your meet-ups will be now.

of course she's excited but she'll start missing you when the novelty wears off.

my dear and only sis (we are very close) lives in the Middle East. she was in the Far East before that so at least it's 4 hours closer (by plane).

I am younger - she is a big sister all first born and confident and I am all appeasing and hero-worshipping.

foxinsocks, where are you from? always assumed you were from UK! are you american? south african? irish?

I live in the UK now. I have one British parent and one South African and spent first 14/15 years in the UK, then 10/11 years in SA, and I've been back here (in the UK) for 8 years now.

I am the eldest and I BET she is really upset but is doing the typical older sister thing by not looking upset and telling you all the positive things to try and cheer you up.

that's interesting where you are from, fis. africa must tug at your heartstrings sometimes!

dimpled, i am the eldest but my sis is the confident-jet-all-over-the-world one.

believe me, your sister will really miss you and kids when it starts sinking in - and no doubt regret the fact there is no-one to palm her kids off on whenever she needs it. Oh, I wish I had that - even for a few years.

Merry, I'm the same - my sis is 7 years younger but I always feel like she's much older and wiser, confident, pretty etc etc - don't get me started - but I love her to bits!

My mum left 5 siblings to come here in the 1950s and hasn't seen much of them since - but they're still close by letter & phone. I think she was enormously brave to leave all that to marry my father! (his siblings are all over the planet!) I do feel sad for her now that they're all in their 80s and will start losing each other forever soon.

it must be a bit tough for you at the mo, but when your sis gets sorted with her new house and you see each other, it will be quality time you'll be sharing which will be very special.