Message from abusive ex

[MozzchopsThirty]

What does this message say to you???
It’s been a few days now of him asking to make it work, he can change, give him a chance
After noting for 3 months.

Give me your opinion on the underlying tone of this

Thank you all so much you’ve confirmed my fears that actually he still believes his behaviour was ok and that it’s fine.
In that first pic there’s clear evidence of him just wanting me to shut up about it and move on like a good girl

Oh good grief. BLOCK.

His use of the phrase "going forward" would be enough to make me want to run for the hills.

He used it twice!

Yuck.

Don't reply and block. He can hardly complain if you do - given that he's specifically said that you can do that if you don't want to re-engage (how gracious of him to grant you permission!!).

I suspect he'll try and get in touch again, because he wants you to re-engage and your silence will annoy him because he's used to having things his own way. Be prepared for him to try and find another way to contact you and a nasty or abusive message from him, because you aren't dancing to his tune.

He really is vile
This is all because I put my pic on POF on Sunday then voila a first message from him in 3 months

Block him.

On every media platform you're on.

Carry on as you are, you're doing nothing wrong.

The fact he sought you out on POF is creepy as fuck.

Changing the name of my ex in the phone to Twat. Genius.

You're well rid OP. I get messages like this all the time 9 months down the line. Then the silent treatment. Unfortunately I have to have contact with him cos of the kids.

Good luck with POF ;)

Yep discuss going forward like it’s a business meeting. And he wish he didn’t love you. What every girl wants to hear!

BLOCK his number .... controlling twat.

As other have suggested, quick reply saying 'No, sorry, this is not good for me.' Then block, block, blockety block!

Well done on getting out of that relationship, OP.

You've saved his number under the right name...

Queen you made me laugh out loud with that

Twat is the right name for him.....how pathetic. Blaming you, but having god like mercy on you so you can humbly come back into his life...ha pissoff fool.

I hope you don't have DC with him, or any financial issues to sort out. If he's just some cock you used to date, block him and ignore. And I also think storing his number in your phone as 'Twat' is a great idea.

No dcs but I owe him money which I’m paying off monthly
My friend offered to pay it off just to get shot of him

Jesus - take your friends offer and pay your friend back instead. Make sure you have proof that you have paid him off in full.

But then I’ll owe her money and I hate that

Better to owe it to a friend than a twat ex.

Yes definitely owe it to your friend rather than him. Sever all ties - whilst you owe him money it's a link.

But if I can’t pay her one month I will feel awful

If you really don't want to borrow off your mate, then set up a standing order for the repayment to Twat and ignore him - just keep tabs on how much you have left to pay so you don't accidentally give him more than you owe.

Oh yes that’s in place already
I don’t actually see him to give him the money

How long is there left to repay the money?

6 months 🙈

What a backhanded kind of apology. It doesn't seem one bit sincere.