My DP and i got together after a brief and intense affair - i ended my marriage to be with him and he left his partner...not a great story i know, especially as he didn't tell her about me for 2 years. Since she realised he's in a new relationship she won't let him see their daughter, now 10. He's trying to sort this out through the legal route - having tried everything else imaginable - but his ex and daughter live in france and the law there is not pro-dad in any way. It's now been nearly 3 yrs since DP has set eyes on DP and the sadness of this is killing him.
I think his ex will never budge while DP with me and have suggested we separate for a time to allow space for him to work on trying to sort things out. I don't love this option but if we carry on as we are i think he'll never see his daughter again and this wiĺl destroy our relationship anyway.
He thinks our separation would make no difference to his ex - she hates him and always will - but i think it's got to be worth a go, at least if she could see him as a single man she might a bit less angry? I'd love to hear views, especially from anyone who's blocked contact between their kids and ex in a similar way. I should add this is not related to him being an abusive dad - he has kids by a previous marriage and is close to all of them.