It's not a big problem really compared to others but it has hurt me and it's just gotten worse over time.
I found messages to his ex where they had a pretty long conversation about her love life and how he was very sorry about how crap she had been treated. No flirting but he did this while with me a while ago and yet didn't say anything at the time that he was talking to her so he hid it. He's also blatantly lied in front of me as one of his friends asked him if he was still in contact with her and he said she kept trying to talk to him but he only ever gave one word answers or didn't reply to try and rebuff her.
He does treat me differently than his previous girlfriends too, as in he used to get too rough at times with me, like he'd be poking me for some reason and it would hurt, I would tell him and he'd just go 'no it doesn't' and keep doing it, ending up leaving bruises. Or he'd slap me in what was meant to be playful but hurt and never apologised when I said. He apologises now after I nagged him for ages, but stopping would be better.
He's lied to me a few times, he tries to force me to do things I don't want to do (it's not sexual things, but since I was raped before I met him I hate being forced to do anything so it really annoys me that he doesn't care at all about it). He will shout at me during an argument as well and claims he doesn't, but he does.
I am just second best aren't I? He says he doesn't ever want her or any other girl, but that's not the way it looks to me. If I wasn't second best, why do I get treated like this?
Sorry it's not a huge problem in comparison to what other people go through, I'm just fed up.