Recently a woman who is a good friend questioned me about her partner's, who is also a good friend, relationship with his best mate's GF.
She is worried that they are having an affair; I have no reason to believe that they are, in fact I would be amazed that either would jeopardise their relationships let alone both.
The woman who asked has in the past freely admitted that she has always been massively insecure so I'm not inclined to automatically side with the gut feelings camp here.
Presumably she asked me as she believes that I wouldn't lie to her, which is true, and I've been around them when she and the other woman's partners have been absent. On the flip side when we were out recently (not just me him and her but several others too) I asked why his DP wasn't out, he said she had an early morning commitment the following day but he'd just have to take the flack from her as she doesn't want to let him go out on his own any more.
I had a good chat with her, saying I though she was wrong and that if she's having issues with insecurities and trust she needs to work on them or decide what she wants but if she carries on as she is they will consume her.
The quandary is this. From what I know of this woman and her past relationships I doubt my reassurances will have changed anything. At some point I expect her to throw accusations around, sabotaging her relationship with her DP, probably messing up his friendship with his best mate and damaging the relationship between that mate and his GF.
My gut says stay well out of things, let whatever may happen, happen but try to be the voice of reason if it does. However, she's kind of involved me and my head says I should at least tell her DP what she's thinking. Then he can decide whether to talk to her about it or make sure he's not alone with his mate's GF or maybe even run for the hills.
WWYD?