Single again at 42

[magentastights]

So, after getting out of a bad marriage in 2012, I started seeing a guy who had chased me down relentlessly.
He lived with me for 5 years, then a year ago he got his marital house back and moved back there. Downhill since then. He couldn’t understand why I was so sad.
Finished this morning. Could do with a hand hold

That's shit isn't it, but don't be scared of being single in your 40's you are still young! Maybe time out from men for a while? Why didn't he understand that you were upset!!! Is he not upset at all?

He’s devastated. I don’t think he thought I’d have the nuts to end it

I'm 52 and experiencing a similar thing. There are times when I think I should just enter a Nunnery - not that I am looking or even hoping to date. It just all feels a bit hopeless.

With you, I read your post like he ended it with you and didn't understand why you were upset about the break-up. Surely he can't expect you to be happy with him moving back after living together for 5 years. Why didn't he sell the house and stay living with you?

Because he wanted somewhere for his kids to visit him. I understand but they are both in their late teens and down won’t be interested.

I ended it with him