crap sex life & impotence

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Hello mumsnetters.
It's my first time on talk so please be gentle!
Feeling kind of down as me & dp hardly have any action these days. We're both always tired from work and 80% of the time he suffers from impotence, not sure why he always has done. I have never really made a big deal about it, I've hardly mentioned it for risk of stressing him out and making it worse.
Problem is it is now starting to really upset me, such that I don't really want to even try iykwim.
The other thing is that I/we wnat to get pregnant. We talk about it all the time without mentioning the very obvious problem.
Anyhow, would really like advice on how to approach the impotence issue without upsetting me or him, I know I've left it too long. Is there anything i can do to help him?.
Thanks

Do see a dr and see if there is any physical reason for the impotence, but if there is not, you can also approach Relate - they offer psycho-sexual counselling as well as the more usual marital therapists. They have a very good success rate and look at all aspects of a couple's sex lives and offer exercises and ways to help. They won't counsel you if you are pregnant though.

I know it will be really difficult to mention it but when you do why not, as a first step, get some viagra off internet? It's annonymous and if your hubby has any kind of mental/confidence block it might just shift it if you have one successful night!

Worth a try I reckon!

xenabelly - I've thought about that, just seems a bit underhand and I would be worried about the potential sideeffects.
I know i have to bring the conversation about a trip to the doctors up, but just don;t know how to do it without upsetting him.