Asking her to move in

[faithinthesound]

And I’m bricking it haha.

Encouragement and support, MN massive?

Just ask her! You're probably over-thinking a question that she'll probably say yes to

Don’t do it unless your 100% sure. You have even the tiniest doubts, don’t do it

Asking your partner to move in should not be this difficult. I suggest examining the reasons as to why it is. I don't think you're ready.

How long have you been together? Have you discussed this before? Have you spent a long period of time together 24hrs, e.g. a week's holiday?

Are you bricking it cos you are afraid your partner will say no?

Maybe you’re right.

We’ve been together since before Christmas, except for a very brief period where we fought and separated. (Very brief - less than two weeks before reconciling.)

She spends all her time at my place. I think of the last month, she’s maybe slept at her place six, seven nights? And three of those at least I was at her place with her.

What did you fight about?

If you’re not 100% don’t ask her.

A misunderstanding.

It was a she said, she said thing, and when we got back together we set some ground rules about communication to make sure we wouldn’t find ourselves in a situation like that again lol. It was stupid really. We both think so. But we’ve been a hundred percent better since.

If you don't feel comfortable having a conversation about living together, you're no where near ready. It really shouldn't be difficult. It's usually a natural progression.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong in being a bit nervous. Maybe have a long hard think make sure you’re 100%

Maybe just discuss it like “how would you feel about moving in with me?”

I would not move someone into my home if I had been with them less than (or about?) one year and had split up during that time too. Even if you resolved it and have learned from it, it showed that you didn't have good enough communication to deal with it without a split last time. I wouldn't trust that communication was better now unless that had been tested.
It's one thing if you move in together somewhere new, but this sounds like she'd move in with you? That makes it really hard to split if you want to - because you're now responsible for them losing their home too.

I think - why the rush? You're together all the time anyway. I would wait until you had a longer relationship.