Hash v wine

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My man likes to get stoned every night,it’s his way of relaxing and switching off,am ok with that tbh. If I have a bottle of wine,he won’t talk to me for days. Wine was a way I could switch off and chill,and yes it could be a couple of bottles every 4 days,I never get stroppy,I do it in my own home and not in front of anyone as he is in bedroom leaving me to enjoy peace and watch crap on telly and I end up falling asleep,not off my face. He says I have a problem but ok for him to smoke a couple of very large joints every night, he is still not talking to me because I had two bottles on Monday night,it’s not fair. Today I decided to test myself to see how long I can go without a bottle of wine,I knew he smoked this stuff but shouldn’t he quit it too? We have no kids living at home they grown up. Please has anyone got any advice.many thankyous

Maybe agree to cut down to 1 bottle if he has a few nights off so you can spend time together? X

Op is definitely putting her life at risk but weekend drinking is not classified an addiction. Although it has a potential to become one.

One bottle on a weekend evening or on rare ocassions (a big night where we start drinking early) two bottles is fine and doesn't make you an alcoholic. But doing it every night probably does mean you have a dependence, or having to 'see how long you can go without drinking.' About 4 glasses of wine would be pretty standard for me (both of us really) on a Saturday. But we don't drink that every day. Friday and Saturday would be about the max. We don't drink at all during the week, only weekend evenings. Both could easily go longer than that. If you are drinking that much every night and you don't know how long you could go without drinking, yes, it's probably a problem, even if it's not affecting your health or other aspects of your life (at the moment). But equally smoking a joint or several every day is also a form of dependence, so I'd say you might both have an issue and if you want to quit or cut down, you probably have to both do it together.