My DP is pissing me off sooo much (You're all gonna laugh...)

[kittylette]

He collects action figures

He always has, at first i thought it was cute, but its just out of hand.

Theyre everywhere, in my kitchen, in the bedroom,

he has his own office room and its full of them, in glass cabinets ect...

He said he would stop buying them but he hasnt

I'm trying to save for the wedding nd every day the postie brings another jiffy with a small plastic man in it

i hate them and they're making me dislike him!

How can i take him seriously when he plays with dolls?

Im pissed because the postie has just delivered another 2 'varients' of a figure he already has a dozen of!!!

I want to just bin them all, but i cant , theyre HIS property IYKWIM, as much as i hate them i cant do that to him.

our loft is full of this stuff. We can't put the normal things up there like luggage etc so it makes our house seem even smaller than it is

When I was a child our dog chewed all my brothers action figures - not that I am suggesting you get a puppy...

try not to despair my dp used to collect comics, baseball cards, cds and magazines.

he is now selling loads on ebay and they're worth quite a bit. so could be an investment for the future

Could the Green Goblin have a major arson attack on his room? Just so he could take over the WORLD Mwahahahahaaaa!?

OMG
Leave him immediately.
Now
Don't look back.Keep walking lady.

Is this another trolltastic post?

If not, I think it would be a dealbreaker. It's me or the men...

Can't you channel his addiction? Like, suggest that it's beneath him to get the common 'tat', and say that it's much more 'manly' to find the really rare stuff
(esp undervalued), or even provide some kind of service to other collectors? Some way of letting him express his hobby without getting out his credit cards every time.

My dh collects box set dvds (ok, I know not in the same league) of a certain well known intergallactic serial. He only buys new ones if he hunts it down on sale at 1/3 off or less. And we budget in terms of having individual pocket money. He rarely goes outside this - even if I'm at how he can last a month on £2.50 personal money cos he blows it all in one go.

tell him to ebay them and you can pay for your wedding with some left over!

im NOT going to leave him!!

geez its not like hes beating me or the kids or cheating!

its just irritating

I guess it's only a major pain if he is paying this addiction more time, effort and money than he does on you and the dc's. Also as they grow and need more room would he relinquish his toys to fit theirs in?

I would definitely start just sending the parcels with figures back as address unknown if he doesn't stop when asked.

i think its quite cute that he has his own hobby, as you say things could be a lot worse, he prob cant understand what your on about if you used to collect them as well, if there is a area set aside for them can you not just say nicely "darling you have 24 hours to get all your fiqures in there or i will put them in myself" he might not think that you are capable of handling his precious things and give him the push to do it.

is the money really a issue if its only a couple of pound a time? or is this just a excuse to try and get him to stop bying them, he sounds like a lovely guy so im sure if money was a issue he would calm down if you asked him.

kitty, the reactions on this thread seem to have made you realise that it's not such a big deal.

Either that or him cheating on you with She-Ra is worrying you!

naw not She-ra

Rouge maybe, lol

It's all about reasonable/unreasonable, isn't it? Have a chat with him. If it's affecting the household budget, agree a limit on what he can spend per month (and perhaps suggest that if he wants to buy more he sells off some on Ebay to raise more cash ...) It's also reasonable to insist on the things being confined to certain rooms in the house and not allowed in others - he's not the only inhabitant of the place and other people want either a pristine minimalist environment or room to spread their own bizarre tat around (don't know your household members or their tastes so please don'\t take that personally).
But a person with no hobbies and interests other than "Our Relationship" is a person who will begin to bore the tits off you very very quickly.