Am I the only one who has no interest in having a partner?

[DoubleNegativePanda]

I was married for 12 years to an EA shitheap. I've dated several people since and have discovered I have zero tolerance for bullshit, but more than anything else I flat out refuse to relinquish one drop of autonomy. I have no interest at all in asking someone's opinion of proposed plans, making sure someone doesn't mind if I take off out of town for a day or two. I don't want comments on whether I've cooked dinner, done laundry or watched Star Trek all afternoon.

Date a bit, fool around if I want to, send them home. Catch and Release.

I can't be the only one who prefers to be single, can I?

The thought of a partner - abybold partner - is unappealing because he is unknown. One day you might meet someone to whom you are very attracted, and all will change!

Carry on as you are until then.

*any old

It seems appealing except the whole dating part. First dates, online dating, always dressing up, planning dates, meeting a million horrible jerks to meet even one ok guy, that then isn't interested, awkward sex. Shudders If only it was as simple as simply catch, release and be happy!

See I'm all of those free and independent things you all speak of. But I also have an amazing husband who only enhances, in no way detracts. Dont rule it out if the right one comes along.

The happiest lady I know is70 odd with a lovely dog and several ‘gentleman callers’ she has been divorced, been widowed and now as she says she can do without all that, she is very active though and well and I guess that makes a difference. Given the amount of chaos on here from affairs, porn, mismatched libidos, emotional shit, gamblers, alcoholics etc, (male and female I may add) it’s not surprising many women and guys too to be honest in some cases now think ‘sod that’

Oh I want old fashioned gentleman callers!!

I’m single and lonely and this thread is making me feel much better.

Guys around my age (25) prefer porn and prostitutes

I've thought long and hard about starting the process of looking for a new partner. Then I've thought about all the bullshit that comes with. Nah, sod that for a game of soldiers.

I also find the thought of having to live with someone again utterly horrifying.

I suppose there could be that perfect soulmate out there who would compliment my life and coexist in my home without making me feel stifled or controlled. I won't hold my breath, and I'll be perfectly happy alone if and until that person ever shows up. I've got no interest in looking but you're right, I shouldn't discount the possibility.

I don't know anyone at all who has a spouse that isn't a jackass at least 50% of the time though :(

I would rather stick pins in my eyes than ever contemplate another relationship.
I love the peace of mind of shutting my front door and never having to walk on eggshells ever again around another human being.

I was very happily single for 6 years, found a bloke if I needed some sex. Then I have ended up completely falling for a friend I had known for 20 years (reconnected as friends again earlier this year). No one is more surprised than I am, well my friends can’t believe it either. Not living with him though, I ain’t that stupid!

I'm the same

I think I have friends with nice husbands but how can you be sure? I have definitely reached the stage where I would not be shocked by anyone calling to say "My husband has done something awful". Sad but true.

I'm not someone who would cope with someone being around a lot. I like being single. The only problem is that silly sense of people trying to "other" you or make out you are odd and that is bothering me much less as I get older.

Sounds awesome OP, I've always said should my marriage end a fuck buddy would be more than sufficient-another relationship? Fuck that, no

Wow loving hearing about all you happily single independent people. It's very inspiring. I'm divorced with 2 DCs and struggling somewhat with loneliness and depression...looking back at my marriage idealising what I had, blaming myself for it all going wrong...blah blah blah. But seeing here that there can be life after divorce.

I'm single, independent, own house, own car, own income, don't have to compromise constantly, lead my own life, happy in my own company, a lot of interests and have no desire whatsoever to have a relationship as I am happy as I am.

I'm free to do what I want, go where I want, please myself, not step on eggshells. I've done the marriage, had long term relationships, have grown children and grandchildren so feel fulfilled, older and wiser.

The stories I hear of partnerships/marriages etc. surprise me. I have no idea why some people are together. But then I'm not a martyr, refuse to be abused in any of it's forms and believe in good mental health. If that means me being single so be it.

I'm not interested either. My 12 year relationship has pretty much come to an end and I have zero interest in being in another relationship ever again. I've had some fabulous boyfriends along the way and been very lucky but I'm just kinda done with it all now. It's a bit startling at times to think that this is it for me now - no more sex or men but I'm not really that arsed either quite frankly.

I bloody love being single. There is not one thing I miss about being in a relationship. I like sex but have a fwb and the odd one nighter. I want cocktails and dancing, not IKEA and roast dinners. My life is ace. Financially independent, have great adventures, ruler of my own empire. Divorce was horrific at the time and now I look back and wish I'd done it sooner. Single is lush.