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Hate my Partner

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LittleG7 · 19/10/2017 21:22

Need a rant / first post

I’ve joined because I often see loads of people talking on here and supporting each other

At the end of my rope
I hate my partner

We have 2 kids, a boy aged 2 (3in jan) a little girl at 18months (2 in March) and I cannot stand him

He makes my skin crawl. Hate his mannerisms, his personality, his opinions, just generally everything about him. Sometimes when he is talking my heart is shaking where I just want to scream in his face off.

He will deliberately say things he knows pi*es me off. He eats with his mouth open. I have a small bit of OCD with cleanliness and hygiene (it’s being worked on) so he will sit there and f*t next to me. I know it don’t sound like much but I generally am at the point where I could punch him in the face if he talks down to me one more time.

Breaking up isn’t an option.

Just looking for a rant and possibly some coping mechanisms advice on how to live with a lazy good for nothing slob

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MyBrilliantDisguise · 19/10/2017 21:24

Can you tell us why breaking up isn't an option?

Pinkknickers · 19/10/2017 21:25

Why is breaking up not an option?

LittleG7 · 19/10/2017 21:26

Of course, it’s no secret. We have 2 kids, we have tried it a few times and he literally stalks me until I let him home.

2 young children and I have a job and can not afford the child care without him. Also wouldn’t want to put them both in full time school while I work and obviously couldn’t afford to not have a job.

Pretty much the only reason.

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ninjacastle · 19/10/2017 21:31

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JD360 · 19/10/2017 21:37

You may get help with child care if you are a single parent depending on how much you earn. This sounds terrible you deserve to be happy

LittleG7 · 19/10/2017 21:45

I don’t qualify for free child care as I earn too much and I don’t show it around my children. I work 9-5 walk through the door and he walks out to work. We get every other Sunday together and I have Friday and Saturday alone with the kids

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LittleG7 · 19/10/2017 21:46

Which is great by the way. I love our days together Smile

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ninjacastle · 19/10/2017 21:49

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TheFifthKey · 19/10/2017 21:52

You can get help with childcare as a single parent earning a surprising amount. I never thought I'd get help but I qualify for tax credits even on what I regard as a very decent salary.

SandyY2K · 19/10/2017 22:08

How would you manage if he died and there was no life insurance?

Life's too short to live with a man you can't stand. Or can you tell him you want to live together for the kids and not have a romantic relationship with him.

You would both be free to see other people.

LittleG7 · 19/10/2017 22:29

I’ve already checked
I qualify for absolutely no help at all.

Yep certainly do feel trapped but I’m happy I have my babies as they make everything ok on our days together and our evenings are wonderful

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