We have been friends for 21 years. He visits me every few weeks or so. 2 years ago he proposed to me saying that he loved me. There has never been anything physical between us and for this reason I refused. He does not visit so much now though we are still friends.
Basically I told him last year that I wanted more physical contact
but he says he loves me like a sister.
If we married I would be afraid that he might go off with someone else.