I will start by saying 2 things - 1 I have name changed in case dh sees this and 2 I have fucked up on the way here too.
Mother in law and I had a huge fall out a few years ago over the fact her husband sexually assaulted a friend of mine - she stood by her husband, dh got stuck in the middle. We resolved it by me opting to remove myself and the kids from mother in laws life. This has made my husband's life virtually impossible but he's chosen to make a go of our marriage so has to put up with my decision.
Fast forward to last month and dh and I have a blow up argument about how much he misses his mum and misses being a family - I have never ever stopped him seeing her I just refuse to have anything to do with the manipulative witch and her husband myself. He made me agree to start trying to build bridges with her so I agreed I would drop her a text. I genuinely forgot
Now she phoned this evening and laid into me at dh for not visiting her father who is elderly and infirm. Dh stood up for me to her and said my own grandfather is in a similar state and my priorities have gone in that direction. She didn't like that going by what he was saying to her.
Long story short he came off the phone ready to burst and let rip at me for not trying to patch things up. He wants nothing to do with me as I just make things worse and make his life difficult. I know he's letting off steam but I can't help but feel there is an element of truth there.
I offered to make contact with the witch and he told me don't bother there's no chance of repairing my relationship with her (Oh well).
I'm really really worried about dh though. Really worried about him. He's a bottle everything up kind of person and he's about ready to blow.