Embarrasing day, am I making too much of it?

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I tend to over-analize everything so I wanted some opinions on the day I've had because when I think about it I just feel sick with embarrasment.

Basically I took my 2 boys to my grandmas since they're on their holidays and she doesnt see them much.

She's used to them playing up a bit, being a bit cheeky and whinging about being bored (doesnt make it right I know) but today it seemed like a constant embarrasment. She gave them some pens to draw with and my eldest (8) got annoyed and said they were crap as none of them worked right. They later told her and my aunt that I'd let them watch scary Movie (they saw it whilst I was watching it, they were supposed to be in bed) and everyone was really shocked that I'd "let" them watch it. My youngest then told everyone "my brother goes to shop all by himself but my mum says we're not allowed to tell anyone" . The truth behind this is that I PERSONALLY feel that my son is sensible enough to go around the corner to the shop by himself, when he told his dad he said he shouldnt be allowed so I said "just dont tell him then" maybe I shouldnt have said this but I dont like people questioning my parenting...my grandma and aunt now believe that I do things that I tell the kids not to tell anyone about.

In one way I think when I left they might've just laughed it all off but another part of me can imagine them discussing how bad my kids are getting and how much of a bad parent I am.

Am I making too much of it? I really hope so.

Yes you are making too much of it honestly let them have a good chat about the ins and outs if it makes them happy.
Flippin kids would get you strung up mine are the same and we arent the only ones I would bet my house on that.
Even if you did let them watch scary movie big deal whose business would it be.Ok so you let him go to the shop alone maybe saying dont tell wasnt best idea its like red rag to a bull.You need to care a bit less about what people think and chill your boots!

Don't worry about it....your the boss...your their mum....you make desicions about them.
I am sure the pair of them had sticky moments with their children...thats what kids do to us 'grown-ups'!

me.xx

Oh I think your kids have worked out EXACTLY what to say to get a reaction out of you! Bless their little cotton tails. You do realise they will come back and say things like 'granny smells of cabbage and lets us have chocolate' next to wind you up?

Don't worry about it. Anyway, it's always good to give the inlaws something to moan about, saves them having to make stuff up.

I think you are making too much of this too - develop a thicker skin and try adn let it wash over you. People judge your parenting skills all the time and if it doens't match with theirs they disapprove. Get used to laughing it off and acting like it doesn't bother you and slowly you will find it doesn't.

Regarding thier behaviour with the pens - that is downright ungrateful. If it was me I would have taken them outside and given them a strict talking to, I think you should still do that now.

Yes don't worry they will ALWAYS find something to slag you off about, at least you know what it will be!

Thanks, I know I should care less about what people think, it would make my life alot easier!

The pens were some old ones she had in an old tin in the cupboard so its not like she'd bought them for him but even so I tld him off for being ungrateful and cheeky .

My uncle died recently and my aunt had made a picture on the computer with a poem on, I had a copy of it rolled up (so not to bend it) on the arm of the chair and my boys kept accidently landing on it etc... to be fair they didnt know what it was but it was still causing a bit of an atmosphere as you can probably imagine. Especially when my 8 year old said "that smells funny..." I think he was copying off Jack Sparrow but they didnt see it like that.

I think at the end of the day I need to work on my kids behaviour more than anything else.

Oh dear! Little buggers. Clever, though. Mine do this too- they pick up when they have the power to embarrass me because I really want them to be a credit and I also want to come across as effortlessly in control so feel I can't resort to bawling them out. Poor old you. I have been there, if it's any comfort, and I think you just have to think flip it, they're good kids really, this is as much about me being embarrassed as anything else. Oh and tell them that sneering at shit crayons is unacceptable and they need to lie next time too.