Being completely upfront, I'm going to write this post as me, 2 years ago would have done:
I'm so annoyed. Me and my husband have just moved in to a house together. It's the first property that we have bought and my parents have invested in it too. My husband has a pretty shit track record with money and he had amounted a, smallish, amount of debt on credit cards which he told me about a year or so ago. I was angry that he has hidden it but because I knew that we would be wanting to buy somewhere in the not too distant future, I used my inheritance from my Grandparents estate to pay it off. I was very clear that I wasn't happy about it but I wanted to secure a decent future for all of us so I was prepared to use that money to do it, and he knew where that money came from. Anyway, since then we have been sensible with money to ensure we have good credit scores and can get the mortgage. That's all sorted but I've just found out he's racked up a couple of thousand pound of debt. There's also a payment related to his father, who he is estranged from, that he told me he hadn't made. I'm so angry with him for lying. He's said that he didn't want to worry me and that monthly costs are higher than he anticipated so he just put it on his credit card and overdraft where possible so I wouldn't know about it, but for my sake, not to worry me. I've told him that I won't bail him out again, not that I have the money too but I could ask my family for help. Mostly I'm so pissed off that I used the money from my grandparents to sort us out for the future and he's put us on a back foot again. And the lies. The lies piss me off. If we can't afford the monthly costs, why not discuss it with me so we can figure it out together, rather than keeping me in the dark?
What do you think? What would you do in this situation?