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He hit me.....

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user1497293766 · 17/10/2017 00:36

My partner of 15 years has an alcohol problem. Tbf I thought we where getting somewhere when he gave up for 3 months with no help. It started to creep back I whilst we where on holiday. Well today he has been drinking since god knows when. I locked the doors up and went to bed. We have 4 kids 13, 12, 4 and 2. We live in a bungalow. Could here him knocking frantically on the door which is glass and the windows and he was getting really mad. When he's drunk he gets verbally agressive and yes he scares me. He once smashed the house up whilst drunk. Her manage to get my 13 yr old windows open and tried to climb though shouting all sorts of horrible things. I tried to stop him. And he slapped me really hard across the face....I was really shocked and he just carried on shouting and got thru the window. All in front of my 13 yr old son who was crying terrified. He's now in the living room hopefully passed out. I need paracetamol my head is pounding and I am still shaking. I need to a drink my mouth is dry . The kitchen is thru the living room.
He leaving tomorrow I will be sure of it. Even if I have to get the police involved. He's done it once right so it will happen again? 😢

OP posts:
keeponworking · 17/10/2017 18:52

His apology means shit. Your poor son.

Whooptydoo1 · 17/10/2017 19:10

Hi OP please consider contacting the police, in the cold light of day it can be easy to minimise what happened, to worry about the potential consequences for him and to let the relief that he's gone today over come the initial horror of what happened last night, he hit you in the face in front of your son, it was not your fault. If nothing else you need to log it with the police for future reference. If he obtains a court order allowing him to see your children because they don't know that he is an alcoholic, abusive (physically and verbally) bully then you will be in a position where you have to send your children to be with him unsupervised. Can you trust him? Will your 13 yr old want to see him, and feel safe if he does? Saying sorry in this circumstance isn't enough, I'm so sorry this happened to you, and I know contacting the police is much easier said than done

Mary1935 · 17/10/2017 22:39

User please don't have him back - he may return in a few days once the dust has settled. He will be doing a lot of emotional damage to your children and yourself. I carried lots of shame growing up, everything was a secret to protect the alcoholic, no friends came to the house - it left me isolated as an adult - please google "adult children of alcoholics" and it will show you the issues they can have. You must have been through hell with him - also look up al-anom. Stay strong.

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