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Today only - should I do it?!!!!!!!!!! Votes please!!

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kipperthedog · 11/04/2007 13:49

OK am going to try and keep this short! Seperating from dh at the moment but have been attracted to another guy for nearly a year. I don't know much about this other guy other than his profession and that he's really nice! I haven't been attracted to anyone like this for years. Anyhow, this other guy comes and goes from the area and I have found out that he's back just for today. I really want to ask him out but his profession makes it awkward and also have a lot of stuff to go through with dh before I'm free to have any kind of relationship. What I really want is to get to know him but think I would feel like a complete twat phoning up and asking him. However if I don't do it, I have absolutely no idea when/if I'll see him again and will be wondering what if??
Please help me make up my mind what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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jalopy · 11/04/2007 14:36

Could you drop him a note. Avoids embarassment on both sides.

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kipperthedog · 11/04/2007 14:43

No couldn't do the note as he's leaving today. I am in total quandry and I don't think I've got the guts to do it. If I am going to do it, it has to be now!!

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jalopy · 11/04/2007 14:45

Your only option is to ring. At least he won't see you blushing!

Twinmummyx2 · 11/04/2007 14:45

oh my..i have butterflies too......xxx

ScoobyDooooo · 11/04/2007 15:00

Ring...Ring...Ring....

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kipperthedog · 11/04/2007 15:03

AW stop it , I don't think I can!! I'm not free enough to do anything anyway really but then he might not be around for the whole summer or worse not come back at all!!

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doggiesayswoof · 11/04/2007 15:05

Agree with suzywong

Ring and shag

Twinmummyx2 · 11/04/2007 15:08

Whose doctor is he??? i missed that bit?

have you rung him?? have you???

beanie2bump · 11/04/2007 15:08

ring

pinkspottywellies · 11/04/2007 15:47

Is he usually just there for the day or does he stay overnight? You could give him your number and offer him some company in the evening (dinner/drink) next time he's around - just being friendly if he's often away from home

Carmenere · 11/04/2007 16:12

How do you know he is just here for the day? You obviously have some source of info, is it the practice staff, if so they will know if he is involved with anyone.

lou33 · 11/04/2007 16:26

give him your number then leave it up to him

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kipperthedog · 11/04/2007 16:44

I have no idea where he stays or anything. The practice staff just know when he's there or not if you ask to make an appointment.
I haven't stopped thnking about this this afternoon, I did pluck up the courage to phone but he was busy consulting and am now feeling that I prob won't phone back as I think I should sort out my immediate situation properly first. On the other hand....lol

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IntergalacticWalrus · 11/04/2007 16:49

God I miss all that "shall I or shant I shag him" nonsense.......

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kipperthedog · 11/04/2007 16:57

No, I have definately decided against atm. No point starting something I can't go through with. Will wait til I'm more sorted and if it's meant to be then I'm sure it will happen in the end! Thanks for your thoughts all x

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jalopy · 11/04/2007 16:59

Awww, so near yet so far .

DarrellRivers · 11/04/2007 19:05

Ohh Kipperthedog I've only just caught up on this, sorry to hear nothing happened

frumpygrumpy · 11/04/2007 19:12

Oh god, just saw this thread and it was like reading a novel you love and hoping its not going to end . Shout loudly at us when its time for the next installment, I'm hooked now.

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kipperthedog · 12/04/2007 13:40

Well I did try again - all you Mills & Boon lovers out there ! But by the time I'd stopped shaking and plucked up the courage to phone he had left. Never mind, better off getting myself sorted out properly first and hopefully I will catch up with him again sometime.

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Purpleparrot · 12/04/2007 13:46

I really liked a guy after I separated from my DH and thought it was too soon to do anything. He liked me, I liked him and all my friends kept saying I should ask him out. I never did... in fact I rang him up and asked him out for a friend of mine! He said yes (and later said to my best friend that he only said yes because he thought I was going to ask him out for myself!) it didn't work out with my friend and it later because apparent that it was now too awkward for us to try and nothing ever happened. It was a shame.

I say that if you feel comfortable enough to start a conversation with him then why not. If you aren't comfortable enough then leave it a while. Starting a conversation or having a meal etc does not constitute some heavy relationship. If he is as nice as you say then he will understand about your situation and would maybe tell you if he'd rather wait until it is finalised.

frumpygrumpy · 12/04/2007 14:24

Oh! Bummer, but the time can't have been right, I do believe in fate lending a hand. Good luck and keep us posted

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