Tell me your thoughts on this scenario

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DH and I have decided to seperate, but financially cannot afford to. There is a brick structure in our garden and it'd cost approx £9k I reckon to make it a habitable studio.

We have 3 DC 8, 10 & 12.

DH and I are very amicable and get on but our marital relationship is over.

In real and practical terms what do you think day to day family life might look like with DH living in the garden?

Why the assumption that he’d be the one in the shed?

I also agree with PP that it would ultimately be unworkable. Is the one living in it expected to cook their meals in there? What about use of the bathroom, living room etc? What happens when one or both of you start dating?

This is a bad idea. You'd never be rid of him

8 Ace lives in a shed in the garden, it doesn't look like his family's live is a bed of roses.

A friend of mine has been living this way for 9 years now. It works for them.

My ex's parents had a similar set up to the one you're describing - fucked her right up. She used to talk about it every time she had one too many glasses of wine.

inchyrblue please elaborate on your friends situation...I'm interested.

Thank you all for your honest opinions DH does it to be too close and equally not far enough.

We both work full time.

We would not be able to afford two properties here isn't feasible.

No we haven't seen a solicitor but I have suggested a mediator to get some advice.

Those who have seen it work, tell me more.

Why can't you go your separate ways entirely, who is really pushing this shed idea here?. Him?. So he can then keep tabs on you. This is being done for your own perhaps selfish reasons and not with these children in mind.

You need a solicitor far more than a mediator; why have you stated a mediator?. Downsizing and living space quite apart from each other is the way to go here; what is being proposed will simply give the kids mixed messages because you are still "together!.

You unfortunately seem determined to plough ahead with this mad scheme regardless of how crap this idea actually is.

No AtillatheMeerkat I'm not pushing ahead with anything, I genuinely value your opinions that's why I'm asking on this forum.

Don't be scared of unconventional solutions. If you have really thought through the scenario, and can see it working when you both meet other people, etc, them go for it.