Is this gas lighting? Is he a mind fu*k?

[Sounsure777]

My OH and I were in his car en route for lunch with his friends. He said out the blue "oh i thought you would look nice today?"

I was shocked and asked wtf? (I had actually made an effort to wear something nice and makeup so was a v. Odd comment).

I was clearly offended and it felt like he then tried to dent his comment by saying "it was just a statement, i wasnt saying you dont look nice" he then started talking about the use of language etc

I ended up feeling like i was being silly and misinterpreted him but i dont think i did. Sorry if this makes no sense :-/

Yes pigeon.. he sometimes says "you do alright dont you".. after hes cooked a meal or something. Patronising!

Cockend. Get rid of him.

My exDH was like this. If I ever asked him for a favour, he would sit there and rack his brains to think of a return favour he could ask me, before he agreed. He also said millions of little bitchy comments to me that were "jokes". He was a total misogynist and I've never been happier than I was the day I filed for divorce.

Just dump him, there are literally billions of other fish in the sea.

I guess I could go and get ur bike as you did cook a nice dinner

I don't see anything wrong with that. Last night I told dd I'd go and run her a bath because she'd cooked dinner for us all.

I guess rainy its just the tallying..mental note "how much he dies for me and how much i do for him etc

I wouldn't be impressed. Re the you do alright I'd be tempted to colt respond it's not luck, I'd hardly be interested in an adult who couldn't cook a basic meal. Thank you for dinner darling. Then you could just pretend it was a compliment if he got upset, works for him

*coolly