Financial advice after affair-Urgent

[TunnelofLove485]

It is a very serious situation and he is staying with friends at the moment. Tomorroe I will look at the finances. Where do I start? I will be asking him to cancel all unnecessary bills (sky etc) if we can. I'm stressing about the mortgage. I will be able to pay it for a few months but then...so should i phone the mortgage tomorrow and ask for any relief now so i can build up savings? Or leave it? Mortgage in both names but will they speak with just me? My gut is to get everything under control sooner rather than later, even if i can pay the bills for a couple of months. I will need to put the bills in my name, will they allow me without him here?
Can anyone give any practical advice?

I don't know what these various companies will say, but I do know you need to be as pro-active as possible. If you have joint bank accounts, withdraw your money and put it into a personal account as soon as humanly possible. I'm sorry you're going through this.

You say that the mortgage is in both names but you will be able to pay it maybe "for a few months". What does it mean exactly? Do you mean on your own? Do you plan to buy him out? Or do you mean your 50% of it as tou want to keep your equity in the house?

How do your finances work? Do you have a joint bank account? Are you married? Do you have children?