Insults... He called me a "bitch" (jokingly)

[Lovebeingamummy77]

My boyf "jokingly" has now on a few occasions called me a "greedy bitch".. latest this eve.. we had takeaway and i finished my plate (he said wow im impressed you ate all that!.. you greedy bitch!"..

hes said this b4 a few weeks ago.. similar type thing .. food related.. (he offered me a crisp.. i took 2.. he gasped and said "you greedy bitch!!".. hes said its said in jest.. a joke. Ive told him i dont find it funny. He even questionned me.. is it the word greedy or word bitch that you dont like.

I once forgot to send an email reply to someone and mentionned to him. He said "oh do you think theyre thinking 'stupid bitch'".

I just find it derogatory.. not funny as he sees it. Now if we watch a film and there is ref to a "bitch" he asks me if i feel insulted!! So i end up feeling over sensitive. Am i over reacting? I know its up to ME how i feel but intetested in hoe others sould feel please??

once forgot to send an email reply to someone and mentionned to him. He said "oh do you think theyre thinking 'stupid bitch'".

He's really looking for any opportunity to call you bitch/insult you isn't he? I doubt the person you forgot to email thought you were a 'stupid bitch', but his mind went there straightaway? This guy won't change. I would say leave him before you get any further entangled.

I wouldn't mind this, but my DH and I are quite jokey about "rude" words - but it does go in both directions and neither of us minds. If one of us ever said "I don't like that word" we wouldn't use it (although if a word is part of your vocabulary it can take some time to get out of the habit).
I think the issue is more that he's ignored your requests for him to stop than it is the word itself.

Thanks everyone. Yes minerva! My reply was "no matt, YOU are the only one who thinks i am a stupid bitch".

For the record im not stupid lol.. ive got a prof job just like him so its very strange.

Next time he does it ask him if he meant to be so rude and was he not brought up to have manners

Tell him it’s disrespectful but play him at his own game.
When he calls you it,call him a rude twat.
If he makes a derogatory comment about women ask him if he would speak to his mother like it

If it carried on I’d be telling him to bugger off and find someone else to belittle and make him feel important. And find someone with some respect.

You are definitely not overreacting, if your gut instinct says it's more than a mere 'joke' you're probably right. Often this sort of person starts using insults against you for real, and when you tell them to stop, they then insult you again by saying you have no sense of humour. Tread very carefully with this one, he sounds unpleasant.

Thanks everyone my gut says he can be unpleasant. I will see if he continues .. if he does will have to end it.. deal breaker 4 me

The trouble with 'name calling back again' - you calling him a stupid twat or an ugly cunt or whatever - is that it won't have any effect on him. He will probably be used to using that kind of language amongst his mates so it will just be shrugged off. He probably 'banters' with his mates calling women 'stupid bitches' and they'll all call each other stupid cunts and twats, and the language will have been desensitised for him.

I wouldn’t waste anymore time here

He’s testing your boundaries, seeing what he can get away with.
You’ve told him it’s not acceptable and he’s continuing
Just walk away now

He sounds not remotely funny even if he wasn't using horrible language. That kind of chat is as boring as it is demeaning. Get rid.