Coping with loses

[mindfuckery]

If someone had told me how my life would be now a year ago I wouldn't have believed it. I thought I was Mrs Average with usual problems and hassles but I imagined I was happy. I was living with my husband, my adult son and my beloved pets. Since then I've lost
My marriage ( second one which makes me feel a failure )
My lovely 4 bedroom detatched house in a semi rural area
My gorgeous golden retriever in December
My funny, clumsy cat in September
Now my lovely little dog who is only 7 had been given days/weeks as he has stage 4 mitral valve disease.
I'm sitting here in my flat by myself. I'm lucky to have a roof over my head but I can't believe how my life has changed. Anyone any advice on how to deal with coping during difficult times? Or do I just pull the duvet over my head and hope it'll all go away?

*losses

Wow that's some shit you've had launched at you. Life has a funny way of completely throwing itself upside down and you are left thinking how the fuck did this happen!! I don't have any real advice apart from keep talking to freimds, keep doing everyday things and don't lock yourself away. Maybe look into counselling, it works for some but not everyone.

If you need to pull the duvet over your head then do just that - as long as it's not every day. What a lot to have to deal with in a short space of time. You need time to process and grieve so just concentrate on getting through each hour, try and eat, and sleep.
That's all you can do for now my lovely. Be kind to yourself, it's a cliche, but it will pass and get easier.

Thank you both

I’m in a similar boat myself OP. The last two years have been unimaginably awful. All my worst nightmares, one after the other. But you are stronger than you think. I remember reading on here one poster consoling another by reminding them that their track record of getting through tough times was to date 100%. I liked that and I draw on it regularly when I feel like I’m not coping. I have a long way to go myself but I can still see where I’ve made progress. Remember the way you felt in the immediate aftermath of these difficult events and congratulate yourself for navigating a path to where you are now. It will get better. You just need to be kind to yourself for a little bit, whilst you recover. I wish you well.

Oh how awful. Not much advice but things will change again and for the better. Hang in there, stay strong. Sorry for the loss of your animals so close together. Perhaps a new dog or cat in time can help you heal. Take care

I hear you OP. In the last three years my DH died (he was 35). Then two grandparents and a best friend died. This summer I my daughter's nanny had to leave, she has basically been like a replacement co-parent. My job went horribly wrong and then my relationship ended.

My life has gone from expecting a second baby with a lovely husband to bloody awful.

I'm re-building. I'm breathing through it. I refuse to accept that my share of happiness is gone forever. I'm only 37!

Sorry for your losses.

My nan died in April which was very upsetting. She had been very ill & sectioned with psychosis- just as she was getting back to her normal self she died of aspiration pneumonia.
Ok she was 91, a good age, but it was sad.

Now my lovely cat is dying of cancer & I feel gutted & sad all the time - she's been the reason I get up some mornings.
I know she's 'just' a cat but she's my little mate as she follows me everywhere! I will miss her a lot.

I'm sorry for everyone's losses. Woken up with a heavy heart but got to be strong for others.

grobagsforever how terrible for you to have to cope with all that at such a young age