Counselling once separated ?

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Anyone done this?

I was thinking of booking me and ex dp for mediation/counselling as we have two v young dc. I want to keep things nice for them. Any advice ?

Are you amicable with him at the moment or are things acrimonious?

Something happened - see previous thread - and now things are sour. I want a neutral party there so we can talk it out and move forward and be respectful in front of eachother for the kids. Our kids are very young.

Mediation is so hard when things are sour because each party believes they are right, plus each party has to be willing so if your ex isn’t willing then that’s that. Have you spoken with your ex to see if they are open to it?

Yes, he's open to it. I thought the poiibt of mediation was for when things are sour though. If things were good we wouldn't need help. I think I just want to make sure and a plan to be civil in front of the kids

That’s a good start, yes you’re right but I had a particularly nasty split & my ex was forced to go by court so it didn’t work as he refused to co-operate in any way. It’s a good thing he’s willing as that shows he does want to work something out & is putting children first, I would give it a go as it’s very successful if both parties are willing participants

Oh ok. Yes he's open to it