lost the lust for DH in dying marriage and head is being turned

[ellenwests]

Long time lurker and fully prepared for a bit of a backlash but really need to talk,
been married 17 years, ups and downs like everybody, but I just probably in the last year have lost the feelings i had for DH. Sex has become just a bit of a duty to keep him happy, dont really enjoy it or feel relaxed anymore and if i totally honest dont really fancy him. At work there are so many younger guys who are fun and single and love a good laugh and i cant help but lust after a couple of really cute colleagues. I fantasize a lot about having a fling with them and feel that if they showed any interest beyond the banter and innuendo I would cave and more than likely let them do whatever. DH and I are in a very rocky place and have been for some time and I am not sure if I want or he wants us to continue much longer.
Am I being ridiculous or is this maybe not normal but something that happens.... as i said fully prepared for a lecture if i am wrong

Sorry, should have clarified.

It is not his fault that you no longer fancy him, but it would probably be less for him to deal with to hear that, rather than something far more upsetting to come out at a later date.

It doesn't matter what sex the OP is.

OP, obviously you need to communicate with your OH. And obviously cheating is wrong, so if you don't want to be with him/her any more and want to see other people, you should break up.

There's not really much more we can say tbh.

Do your husband a favour.

Pack you bags and leave, you've already checked out.

You = YOUR