Am I being dismissive of ex's feelings?

[BulletFox]

I haven't seen him for 3 years but he offered recently to help with moving. Seemed genuine (we stayed in contact as friends over the years).

It was supposed to be one day, I would have paid for lunch and petrol. Then he asked if he could stay a few days. I said no. Then he wanted to come up the night before moving which I was o.k. with until he started sending me texts with just an 'x' which came across to me as being provocative.

I called him out on this and he tried to backtrack but I'm not being wrong am I? I just cancelled the move help.

I've already cancelled; actually I was slightly freaked out anyway by him thinking it would be ok to stay for a while (it's not my house, I moved in with a friend and she became severely ill so had to go into specialist treatment and I'm left selling up everything).

So no it's not ok for him to think he can move in and he freaked me out a bit with all the X text messages. It wasn't supposed to BE that, just a one day help

It still makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable that he might have thought he could drive here and be entitled to something.

I have said no now and in response he texted me he was going to Portugal for a month (seems a bit drastic). I do have aspergers so might have difficulty processing it but I can't understand why he might not realise that was offensive or why it wasn't appropriate

You did the right thing. Sounds like he had an agenda.

he definitely had an agenda.. you did good

Yes, if it made you feel uncomfortable then you did the right thing.

If you have Asperger's definitely don't let him near you some unsavoury people use that to their advantage.