Catfishing

[dazedandconfuse]

So I'm pregnant and have a boyfriend. I recently found out he's been sleeping with other girls I forgave him as he wasn't in a good place. I then made a catfish tinder, and he matched me. He and the catfish are planning on meeting tomorrow. It's literally tearing my in bits seeing the messages he sends to the catfish (me without knowing) when shall I reveal its me? What shall I do? One of the worst experiences of my life

He sounds like a right wankcannon

Seriously, he won't. So you can either chuck him now and experience heart ache OR you can take him back and experience a load more heartache having to go through this again somewhere down the line. So so true.

Use the time of your he date to pack up his stuff. Then message him to when he is about to arrive that there's been a change to the arrangements, it's you and he should come and pick up his stuff. Have a family member with you if you can for his return.

Start coping for yourself now, because you will inevitably be in the near future.

You're pregnant and he's looking to cheat. How much love and respect do you think he has for you or the baby.

Don't confront him. Don't interact anymore via the catfishing thing. You know all you need to know.
Leave today. Right now.

Look after yourself. I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

You forgave him, he did it again. You can forgive him again, he will do it again, because there are now no consequences.

You are young, you have already one child to look after, and they should be your priority. Can you cope with two? Can you afford two? How will being a single parent to two small children impact the first child? You have a job and a degree to complete, will you have to give up on these if you can't cope? You have thus far coped with one child, a job and a degree. More than most of us can cope with, so hats off to you.

For me, it would be a no brainer. I would kick this sorry specimen to the curb and I would probably book a termination. He has shown what sort of man he is, why wait to find out what a sorry excuse of a father he will be.

If you can't bare the thought of a termination, or you are unsure, you can get some counselling first to help clarify for you if it's the right thing.

As for him, I'd let him go meet his non existent date, then while he is out send a text saying "sorry I'm running late because I've packed up ex bfs stuff and left it at his mum's, signed catfish (whatever name you used)