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I love someone else

34 replies

Pinkroserabbit · 09/10/2017 02:07

I was sat at the bar when someone came over to me, held my hand and looked in to my eyes, they introduced themselves and asked me if i woukd be there friend. They told me I was pretty and lead me to the dancefloor and sweapt me off of my feet

They asked me to the beach and to another dance else were and I went back to meet thier dogs.

Ive feel pretty hard but I have a partner, but we want different things. My partner only ever wants to hug but nothing more than that. I love my partner but im not in love with my partner.

Ive not left in love like this since I was a teenager and the person at the dance ive fallen head over heals for, but I dont know if they feel the same.

I dont know what to do. I dont want anyone to get hurt but at tge same time I cant stop thinking about the person at the bar and I want them in my life. I never planed for this to happen. Ive been loosing sleep and I cant stop thinking about that magical evening and Im praying I will see them again.

Ive been with my partner for 5 years now and our lives are tangled up together. I just long to hold my new friend again.

Im smitten and I dont feel thst way about my partner what do I do?

OP posts:
MargoLovebutter · 09/10/2017 10:20

Seriously? How can you 'love' someone you met for a few hours? Love is about doing things for someone else, compromising, genuinely caring & being there in the fullest possible way.

I've never heard so much twaddle. Please show enough respect for whoever you are in a relationship with to finish it with them before lying & cheating on them with some idealised fantasy of a person you met in a bar for a few hours.

JemimaLovesHamble · 09/10/2017 11:32

Like everyone else has said, but I'm not sure you're taking it in so I'll repeat, sort out your existing relationship first. Maybe it has fizzled out and is irreparable, but at least owe them a conversation before you chase off after someone else.

NameChangeNeedsSleep · 09/10/2017 11:52

😂

backintown · 09/10/2017 11:57

I was sat at the bar when someone came over to me, held my hand and looked in to my eyes, they introduced themselves and asked me if i woukd be there friend

Sounds like one of Jimmy Savilles chat up lines. OP are you a grown up and was this person a grown up too?

Farontothemaddingcrowd · 09/10/2017 13:49

This is really bizarre. I'm not sure exactly what you are asking. It all sounds rather self indulgent. Life isn't a mills and boon novel.

CoyoteCafe · 09/10/2017 13:54

I'm fascinated with how the post is written gender neutral. "They" told me I was pretty, "they" asked me to the beach. What's up with that? Is your new love non-binary? Actually a plural entity?

LoveDeathPrizes · 09/10/2017 13:56

Huh. I don't think anyone's ever introduced themselves and asked if l be their friend since I was seven. Seems odd. But hey, each to their own.

garmsfresh · 09/10/2017 14:12

It sounds like the beginning bit in Grease ..

CoyoteCafe · 09/10/2017 14:28

It sounds like the beginning bit in Grease ..

We made out, under the dock!
We stayed out, til 10 o'clock!

will be running through my head for the rest of the day. Thank you, garmsfresh Smile

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