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noddyholder · 10/04/2007 10:19

pushy driven go getting ambitious career woman ever make a sucess with a laid back unambitious hippie type?Not me but need quick replies as am meeting the female of the partnership for lunch today and it will be topic of conversation for sure

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littlelapin · 10/04/2007 10:20

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Cashncarry · 10/04/2007 10:21

I don't see why not - there are plenty of ambitious career-driven men who are married to wives with different priorities.

So long as neither are taking advantage of the other i.e. they have different roles in the rship drawing on their differing strengths...

evilnamechanger · 10/04/2007 10:21

My dh had a friend like this - she owned a vcery successful jewelry shop and wore little suits. he was a long haired sculptor. Lasted 18 months after she sold shop and went temporarily bohemian.

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noddyholder · 10/04/2007 10:22

It wouldn't be a dig at me as it is what she says!She is unsure she can settle with someone who has no drive for success whatsoever

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noddyholder · 10/04/2007 10:24

She adores him they are great together but he has no desire to ever do anything else with his life He is happy as he is and not interested in her plans etc just wants kids happy home the basics

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ZZMum · 10/04/2007 10:25

yes and am proof it does work.... we are very different but it makes for a fab relationship ...

IOtter · 10/04/2007 10:26

yes definitely...

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noddyholder · 10/04/2007 10:28

tips?You can see I have no knowledge as dp and I are both lazy old hippies!

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lilybubble · 10/04/2007 10:35

I would say yes definitely if both parties were happy with that arrangement. However, if your friend is already unsure, then it doesn't look good unless they can sit down and really thrash out a suitable compromise, ie. how laid back can he reasonably go?!

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noddyholder · 10/04/2007 10:37

She has plans to go abroad I think and run a hotel or something similar He would go but doesn't want any part of the whole organising running it bit She has tried to gee him up in the past but he is having none of it

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warthog · 10/04/2007 10:59

i think it can work. what i think is MORE important is that you both have the same vision for the future.

warthog · 10/04/2007 11:00

she should accept him for what he is or move on. he's not going to change and suddenly get all ambitious. will lead to a lot of friction i'm afraid. if it's not in him, it's just not in him!

hannahsaunt · 10/04/2007 11:29

If he's happy to create the happy home (including hoovering etc) then fab - she can waltz off every morning with impunity; could be very lovely.

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noddyholder · 10/04/2007 14:59

Well I don't think I was much help to her but gave her all the opinions!He is happy to go to france etc but is just not that driven by career and success.He is more than happy to be a house husband but she is worried she won't respect him which i think is madness!

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jalopy · 10/04/2007 18:14

Agree with warthog. If she has niggling reservations at this stage, I can't see her happily accepting his way of life. If the differences are too great and they don't share the same vision for the future, it's probably doomed. She should move on.

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noddyholder · 10/04/2007 18:15

They love each other but definitely don't share a vision for the future.

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jalopy · 10/04/2007 18:17

Sometimes love is not enough, iyswim.

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