My husband walked out on me and our one year old daughter suddenly three days ago because he's stated he's unhappy. I don't know if he's having an affair, running away, or having some serious mental breakdown. Personally I feel he is having a breakdown. He has a history of severe depression and recently been under a lot of stress at work. I know that's no excuse for his behaviour but I'm worried about his wellbeing. No matter how hard I try not to be, I can't just pretend not to care about him. Hes been having nightmares about work at home and unrealistic expectations of him earning lots of money. Other than that and being more grumpy than usual I would describe him as a loving husband. The last few weeks though his behaviour I can not accept. He started lashing out saying I was an unfit mum and he was going to try take our daughter away from me. I have contacted family mediation, which he is very grudgingly coming to. I know he was unhappy at home, but most of the time he seemed to be ok. Hes staying at his Mums for now who's adamant that he still loves me and cares about me, she's just also concerned that he's getting unwell again. He had a breakdown four years ago. He's talking to me minimally, I feel very confused. On one side I want my husband to just come to his senses and come home but on the other side I feel like he needs to be mor stable if he tries to come back. I'm angry at him for walking out on his daughter and I'm torn between going easy on him (in case he hurts himself and he will come back home and get some help) or between going hard on him. Getting solicitors involved, separation agreement etc
He told me he loves me but can't be with me? At the very least of all of this we will be separated for quite some time I expect.
I feel confused tired, and unsure of the nearby future.