His idea of a holiday

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For the past few weeks we have been wondering where to go on holiday, we have 2 kids (aged 7 and 9) so I obviously believed we should go somewhere child friendly. I suggested Florida as we've always wanted to go...DH suggested Germany to see the war sights

I told him that I didnt think the kids would enjoy that so he said they would as we would go to see the nurbergring(?) too...great. To me this idea sounds like a nightmare, the kids will be bored to death, I will be bored as well as stressed out from the kids playing up etc so I told him I disagreed and didnt want to do it.

So he suggested that he go to Germany with his mate and I go to florida with my sister and her kids. we had a row about it and out of frustration I agreed, just so me and the kids got a decent holiday he was delighted and pood all over the brochures but Im not sure if he was ecstatic at going to germany or at us not going with him. I'm so angry at his selfish and childish behaviour. my sister says to just let him get on with it and he'll regret not coming to florida but what type of couple holidays seperately like this? it's like he never wants to be part of 'his' family. As I type this he's going over the details with his mate, he doesnt even care am I blowing it out of proportion? would this annoy you?

selfish sod. Did he really poo all over the brochures (sorry, too good to miss!)

Seems odd to me but I do know of couples who holiday separately because they want totally different things from their holidays.

This really would annoy me and I have every sympathy. It does sound as though he is taking the mick and I would be offended.

But, you probably will have a better time without him than with him if your ideas of a 'holiday' are so different. Perhaps you should also get a mini-break without the kids as repayment - obviously he would be looking after the kids. It might make you feel better and take the smile off his face for a bit!
By the way, next time I would use that as a bargaining chip before you agree to separate holidays.

Lots of couples/families DO holiday together but have an appalling time. Don't think that it is all roses for others.

I can see where he's coming from actually. I'm not really into seeing the "war sights" but would rather stick knitting needles up my bottom and sit on a cold stool for a week than go on holiday to Florida.

Germany has lots of things for kids you know: there are all the fairy castles for a start.

Did you tell him you wanted a family holiday? Trade off, tell him that you'll go to Germany when the kids are old enough to enjoy it. He is a man so in a couple of years he will have moved on to something else.

What about a third destination completely unrelated to either place?

If you've both wanted to go to Florida then why has he suddenly changed his mind? It sounds like he wants a blokey holiday, which is fair enough if you're able to have time away with your girlfriends & no children!!

Do think he is being a bit childish. When you've got kids you need to put them first & do something suitable for them. There is always chance to do a combination of things but a holiday to see war things seems a bit specific!!

Could you compromise? have a look here family-friendly ideas in Germany

But he wants to see war sites. You can't drag kids to those.

Probably not what you want to hear but Nuremburg is actually quite lovely, quite fairytale-ish and the reichmuseum is actually fascinating and there is a good chance that your dc's would enjoy it, it is very child friendly. Why not do a week in each place.