Is it normal for someone to be glued to their phone?

[Starsandhearts]

NC for this!
Is it normal for someone to be on their phone all of their waking time? During dinner, whilst a passenger in a car, whilst watching TV together? When you try and have a conversation with them you know they are just saying yes or no for the sake of it and not actually listening to wha you are saying! I have bought this up with my DP but he can see no issue

Not all the time, no. Not normal.

Its SO annoying. .....and rude!!

Is he older than 15?

Because the answer if no, then.

I agree that it’s rude; the tacit implication is theyre not interested enough in focussing on or spending time with you. I’d bin them off.

He’s nearly 40 so definitely no teenager! It’s starting to become something of a deal breaker for me. What can you do when they see no issue

Very rude, bad mannerd and disrespectul.
Its not normal

You know it's not normal, OP!

Who does he say he's talking to? Does he let you see his phone?

I guess this is just the tip of the iceberg of many other problems that never seem to be an issue for him. One conclusion I have come to is he is very selfish!

My husband is getting worse with his lately and it's so frustrating. I told him I was going to download one of those blocking apps on it when he was sleeping and I'm half tempted. If he doesn't even acknowledge he has a problem then I would be annoyed.

There are a few apps that calculate phone usage and alert you when it's over a certain time. Might be an idea to persuade him to get one to see how much it's taking over his life. Such a monumental waste of time in the grand scheme of things.

I am in the same boat starsandhearts, think it's all come to a head, it's not just one issue but a build up of lots of issues!

Phones can be so addictive these days. How long has he men like this for.

@MyBrilliantDisguise I never ask who he is talking to. More so because I’d rather not know. I know most of the time it is just friends and going through social media watching pointless videos. There has been issues previously with him talking to female friends in an inappropriate way. From messages I had seen on his iPad when I used it, it was one sided and was cringey to see. His explanation was that he was just being friendly! I don’t believe he’s ever cheated but can’t be 100% sure.

I'm quite bad for it, but my DH 'doesn't do small talk.' I'd happily chat all evening, so I come on here instead.

If he has previous form for messaging others then you have every right to be annoyed and concerned. I know my husband is watching dog videos and looking at shit on eBay at least so it's never caused me much concern.

@Jessie1980 sorry to hear you are in the same situation! It really is so annoying.

@SandyY2K he has been like this as long as I’ve been with him. Admittedly not so bad when first got together.

It’s been on and off for 4 years. Only recently got back together again after a long time of not speaking in which time I’ve had a child by someone else. Starting to think it was a big mistake. Feel like he only contacted me again because his life was a mess again. No Home, no money etc.

Could he be messaging an ow? Ask to use his phone and see what the reaction is.

Oh crikey, proceed with caution. He sounds hard work and if you've been through this before, I'd knock it on the head for good.

Yeah, that doesn't sound great.

@whirlyswirly I think I will have to try. He’s kind of moved himself back into my home even though I made it clear I wanted to take things very slowly due to how much stress it caused before with him becoming dependent on me. He’s meant to be staying with a family member and I have helped him to try and sort out a place for himself as he also has children from a previous relationship. He just seemed to leave me to sort it all and hasn’t been proactive about actually making that step to sort himself out. I don’t have the room now that I have a small baby and he has a lot of stuff which is just left around the house. I don’t need the extra pressure of worrying about him while I’m trying to enjoy my time with my baby before I go back to work.
He doesn’t drive. He works but spends all money as soon as he’s got it so has nothing to live on the rest of the month so I feel pressure to help. This is exactly the situation I didn’t want to end back up in!

Kick him out.

@category12 may be easier said than done! He’s got previous for kicking off so I need think about an easier way around it.

Kick him out is glib, I admit - but you should end the relationship - especially if he has form for kicking off. He's moved himself in, he's living off you, he's very likely unfaithful on top of expecting you to look after him - what you've got there sounds like a cocklodging manchild.

Oh the way your thread unravels made me sad, like you were truly starting to realise for yourself how bad things really are. He does need to go, I think you realise that. Can you confide in a health visitor at baby clinic, or phone women's aid. Talk to people in real life, Get a couple friends round for when you have the talk with him (preferable 6 foot muscle ugly ones!!) And send the baby off for a couple hours. If you are scared at any point phone the police. Don't underestimate your gut instinct that he may kick off. Forewarned is forearmed and all that. Keep posting.

It would cause a skin rash possibly?