OLD dilemma

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Dated a guy with OLD for about 6-7 weeks. Initially said after date 3 that we are exclusive but I really felt he was multidating. Anyway things fizzled out and felt he was losing interest (after sex of course!)

I still kind of like him and have feelings for him so agreed both to remain as friends. I've recently messaged him and he keeps saying would be great to catch up but not actually making plans yet he was the one to initiate previous dates. He also keeps going in about how busy he is but would like to catch up and I'm thinking we'll make some plans then..

If he doesn't want to remain as friends then why bother agreeing to it and emphasising how we should catch up?

Sorry I mean kind of like him as in attracted to him but NO deep feelings and I should say I was the one to end it after a few dates lost the "sex" date

If he doesn't want to remain as friends then why bother agreeing to it and emphasising how we should catch up?

Because he wants to keep you on the back burner in case he needs some sex in the future

I still kind of like him and have feelings for him
OK
so agreed both to remain as friends.
Why would you agree to remain friends with someone who you have feelings for, but who lost interest in you?

Did you stop seeing him in hopes that he would regain interest in you?
If so, why did you message him?

What do you actually want from him?

Honestly? You need to stop seeing him and forget about him.

He's happy to keep you around as a "friend" in case he needs you again (sex.)

I don't think he's interested in being your friend or anything more to be honest. He's probably been out on a ton of dates and is just keeping you there if things dry up.

Go out, date other guys, meet new people and eventually you'll be over him.

Sorry though, I know it sucks x

Thanks I know this really just so annoyed that I didn't see this coming

I mean why say things like I'm telling family about you, let's go and meet my family, he promised to even help with my garden I can't believe men can be that desperate they lie about stuff like this

Read this OP

www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/future-faking-is-partly-about-using-intentions-to-enhance-self-image/

What he's done is extremely common. In future, look out for it.

He might not of been lying when he said those things, he really might of been feeling it, however something changed and he stopped feeling it. I've met loads of men who are ridiculously giddy at the start and I take it with a bucket load of salt because as quickly as these feelings appear they disappear.

Don't be his back burner girl or ego boost, delete his number and move on.

Someone you've known for 6-7 weeks and had sex with is not your 'friend'. You have no friendship and as you've both lost interest/ended it after sex so why would you be friends when you're virtual strangers? Take the hint and let it go,spend time with your real actual friends.

Been there a few times 7 weeks is always when I realise i was played. Bored of OL dating now.

He doesn't want to be your friend and never did, it's just he doesn't want to think of himself as the kind of guy who sleeps with women and then never talks to them again. It's just to massage his ego and to present a better image to the world. I suspect it's not even that he wants you on the back burner for sex because he'd probably have tried fixing another date if he wanted that.

Stop messaging him and delete him then move on. Before he does it to you first.

Isn't lets stay friends - the oldest dumping line in the book? He doesnt want to see you, he's just making excuses.

Like everyone else said - move on. He's just not into you.