Hi everyone. I have been in this almost toxic relationship for 6 years. I am currently 24, my boyfriend/partner is 29. We have a 4 year old son together. Currently I’m finding day to day life emotionally challenging due to his short temper and jealousy. He is also involved in a line of work I would rather not describe but non the less it is something he shouldn’t be doing. He smokes cannabis daily multiple times, I’m not sure if this has any effect on his behaviour to me. He is in good health and is a fantastic father to our son and gives him lots of time and thoughtful activities are something he plans often. Although his health is great, he eats very badly just junk mainly sweets and chocolate instead of meals. Last year I turned things around for myself and got into bodybuilding. I train 5 days per week of which he gets very jealous about, he thinks I am interested in other men and hates that my clothing to the gym is so tight. But this has been going on for so long I feel there is no support there for me. He is extremely sarcastic towards me to the point I cry most days. He has been violent in the past. Nothing in the past couple of years but the aggressive streak is most defiantly still there with his swearing and choice of vulgar words. I can’t decide if he is just an idiot taking the easy route in life with the gift of the gab able to charm many into thinking he’s perfect & he defiantly changes his entire personality according to who he is around. Or if I am part of the problem or at least 50% of it, I wonder if I should cook him hot meals for lunch and dinner everyday as he expects, (I don’t) as he is home every day at these times. Sometimes I’ll do him lunch but we don’t eat the same as I mentioned before. I just feel as if I’m slowly being pulled into a dark hole by the way I am treated by him. I wondered if anybody could offer advice? Neither of us have cheated. Neither of us have committed any ‘major’ things we hold against each other, aside from my gym attire he has literally caused more havoc than you could imagine over them. I am so torn, it’s like he is two people.