Thanks to all that read this, hopefully I will get some much needed advice.
Me and DH separated a few years back due to his secret online porn addiction. So as not to drip feed he was using apps/sexting/ sites for a period of three years until I found out. Subsequently we separated and I even filed for divorce. I was gaslighted during this time and his constant denial even though I had hard evidence was as bad as the online seedy stuff he claimed to be addicted to.
Cut a long story short - I really missed him and when he moved out he continued to pay bills/ mortgage and after six months of him living in a bedsit we reunited with an assurance from him that he was done with it and had overcome his addiction.
I wanted a new start (I had a severe mental health breakdown due to this and other stress) and as we were running two households when seperated also had £10,000 debt which we could pay off if we moved.
After a very stressful year which included the breakdown of my BF marriage, a stressful job and a 'friend' who lodged with us as he was made homeless and then wrecked my house - we finally moved.
Unfortunately I have had long term health problems and despite being in remission phase had another major ME relapse. I had to leave my job - which I loved even though stressful and am now in the support group for ESA.
My DH been acting a bit weird last few days - intuition I guess been married for 11 years. So this morning rightly or wrongly but given his history I broke into fb account and it started up again. The sexting with scrubby women and a picture of him in the toilets at his work in an aroused state with seedy dialogue.
I am shocked and disgusted and although I love him very much as someone in their mid forties in poor health with no job and a 19 year old still at home, am at a lost what to do next. I have confided in my lovely friend, who saw how ill I become before. I have a small amount of savings and my health is improving so I may be able to go back to work part time in the next few six months? can people change? Just to say in every other regard he is a good husband - I am very confused and hurt. I hope some of you can take the time to respond so I can maybe take a step back from the dreadful emotions of this latest betrayal.