Feels like a failing marriage

[DukeOfWhistleton]

Hello 👋🏻 can anyone give me some thoughts or guidance? I’m feeling like I really need it. I’m a wife of a man who has low testosterone, seriously low, he’s 42 and husband levels are that of an 80 year old. I respect and am hugely compassionate of his situ. He is under medical assessment and needs to lose a bit of weight and go back to see if that’s changed anything (which I’m doubtful it will) and then he will need to start testosterone replacement which can cause all manner of personality issues - he may change entirely) I always have been and always will be understating of his concern and worries about. He’s honestly speaking a pretty grumpy man, a man of few words and little to no affection (unless he wants a night out with the boys then suddenly me romantic!). He offers little to no support and absolutely zero affection. I have had pnd three times and have been on antidepressants for years! We are in separate beds with separate lives really. I’m 38 and feeling lonely and desperate for warmth and love. Our kids are amazing and so happy. They have no idea about what’s going on.
I want to make it work. But I’m losing faith I can. I just don’t want to be any older and feeling like this. It’s horrible. Any advice/thoughts so welcome x

Does he know how you feel? Have you thought about couples counselling?

Thank you x
He does know and I think it may take some coercion to get him there but I’m starting to think we may need outside advice. He gets very defensive when I discuss how I feel. And then after a big Barney we have a few days of him trying....then back to normal.

Have you considered marriage counselling?