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How do I tackle this?

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123fushia · 01/10/2017 18:28

Twin sister. Should be close and have always spent a lot of time together. In the past couple of years, every conversation has become about her work and how hard it is. I have spent hours listening but am never asked about my work which is hard and very stressful. She has also started to belittle things that I do and has no 'off switch" to regulate herself. She has cut her hours considerably but still moans. Her company is not enjoyable. She is boring and rude. I feel awful saying this about someone in my family.
So, mumsnetters.....advice please on how to tackle this and ideas for what to say next time she starts!

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NotTheFordType · 01/10/2017 18:38

How often do you see each other? If it's only ocassional family wedding/funerals etc then I'd just rehearse saying "How lovely/that's nice/Very good" to everything she says.

If it's more often then I'd start stepping back, as nonchalantly as possible. Just be unavailable.

123fushia · 01/10/2017 18:43

Every week at least, often more as we look after our elderly mother. She texted just as I posted to moan more! Spooky?

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