Well I'm going to be upfront. H is an ex sex addict and for some reason I stayed despite him not continuing to be transparent. So this led to MH issues of mine but I gradually detached and felt better. Doing really well at work etc.
last weekend came home a bit tipsy from lunch and he ran off into the night. Then all week he was hyper critical and a bit off eg shouting because I had wandered off to watch tv upstairs.
today snooped on his phone but told him. He went beserk and I said you gave me the password so you were transparent I thought it was ok. He raged and said I want to look through your phone. I wanted to know where he had gone on the night he ran off.
He acted as if I was crazy. He was full of contempt and said I was an alcoholic failure.
he is projecting his shit onto me and seems to believe it.