Fuming with selfish arsehole of a DH

[armsrace]

This is going to sound ridiculous to some people but others might understand where I'm coming from (I hope).

Basically 2 years ago I was a SAHM and since my kids were both is school I spent many days at home with sod all to do and no confidence to make friends etc so to relieve the boredom I bought myself "The Sims 2" for the PC. For the first year or so I was pretty obsessed with it, I'd have it on most days and clean up etc between loading times etc!

Anyway a year ago I started work part time so I didnt go on it as much but whenever I was bored on a night I would stick it on and 'update' my families etc.

So I've 'raised' my current families over a period of 2 years now, the 'sims' that I play with now and decendants from the sims that I played with 2 years ago and I know it sounds daft to other people but it's a little hobby for me.

Anyway, DH decided to tell me earlier on that he had "had to" format the pc as one of his programs wasnt working properly. I'm livid, I've lost everything from the game...he didnt even think to tell me first so that I could save it onto a disk, he just went straight ahead and formatted it.

I just feel so angry at him, its not just about the game its his whole attitude, like he's the only one that matters.

Am I being pathetic? I know it sounds like I am over a silly game but I'm so annoyed and upset I feel like crying.

Just because she was playing on a computer game doesn't mean she is any more "sad" than anyone that spends a lot of time on MN, or the internet generally, or down the pub, or spending hours knitting. It's her spare time and she can do with it what she wants.

Frabby is right.

This thread has made me want to get the old games out again. Zoo Tycoon, The Sims, Dungeon Keeper and my favourite Rollercoaster Tycoon. AAhhhhh I could lose HOURS>

Lazyline I bought Rollercoaster Tycoon from Ebay - it didn't work . It seems the problem is that my computer is too modern for the old rollercoaster tycoon.

Crazy, I know! There are patches that you can use but I haven't used them since before I had xp so not sure if they will work these days.

Might have a go later and let you know how it works out.

Yes I have XP too. Let me know then, thanks

Right, Crazy: here goes. There is an official XP patch on the Atari website. You have to register to download it and when I tried the page kept timing out. It may be a temporary thing though so you can try that.

You can also google for the patch, search for rct-uk.exe and download that. I did and it wouldn't work for my machine, but read some stuff online that it may be down to individual specifications.

I installed my expansion, loopy landscapes and then installed the patch for that one, rctll-uk.exe and it worked fine, I can play now.

Only took several hours!! Hope you can get it to work.

Can anybody help this woman to restore her game? There must be some geeky type who could fix it for her. I am feeling really sad for her

I'm afraid if the disk has been formatted there's nothing anyone can do.

It takes very little effort to back up fiules before formatting. armsrace, your h is a git.

Dp says did he make a back-up disc of the files on the computer?

have checked with dh. he is unsure if there is any software to get the stuff back so only way is to take it to a company who specialises in recovering data which tend to be expensive.

This is assuming he has done the old format c: or whatever letter your hard drive is tagged with,

sorry it sucks big time.

I'd consider divorce if dh reformatted my PC.

DH did reformat my PC and wiped all my photos of DD that I'd painstakingly collected during my 15 mths as a SAHM. I was with DH at the time and am still pretty upset about it tbh (it was a few months ago).

However I now I'm a bit at myself for not backing up. Was silly not to do it as it was so important to me.

I can understand how you must be feeling in that you've worked really hard on something and lost it all. If DH really can't restore it somehow (I'm sure it's worth a try and there are some great tips on here) then maybe put this one down to experience and set yourself a challenge to build a whole new family - in RL and VL

DH wiped out all my i-tunes. Then plugged in my ipod and wiped that too [arse kicking emoticon]

sobernow: lol at the sims social services.

armsrace - I agree though: it's a game, but it does show that your h is a git as I say. maybe sobernow is right - you should let it go unless there is other gittery you're not mentioning? losing photos would be worse.

I too am a Sims addict and I too lost my beautiful houses and familes when DH and BIL formatted our PC. I also lost photos of DD1 as a baby and other precious pics. Also lost 2 short stories I had written along with several thousand words of a novel I had been writing. The 2 stoopid idiots didn't bother saving my Sims on a disc and thought they had copied and pasted everything else. This was in 2004 and is still very much in my thoughts. Worse thing is DH let me search the system for them for weeks whilst sobbing until he confessed that they were all gone forever! And at your DH. GGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lol at Sims social services, it is horribly addictive. I killed a baby on it through neglect too, easily done, easily done. You've only got to ignore it for a minute, unlike rl

So now we all have back ups of our PC's right :-)

Yes, I have some gorgeous pics of my dogs and my friends and their babies on my laptop. I must put them all on a disc.

Im a sims addict too - might play it in a bit actually. My dd loves it too i can remember when she first started playing and her kids got taken away by ss, she sobbed her heart out. It's important for her to leanr about this type of stuff though - at least in this case i can say it is ony a game. I do feel for you though, my dp has wiped mine before i was a bit gutted but i've started again so many times now, i dont mind that much sometimes i think the best bit is getting furniture etc.

I don't get this addiction with the Sims though. It's just like making RL (real life) in miniature. I play World of Warcraft for its total escapism. It's superior to RL in so many ways. Progress is cumulative, if you want more money you just have to get out there and knock some monsters on the head, you can kill enemies who annoy you, death is only a temporary inconvenience, and there are dragons! What's not to like?

I think for me sims is my escape - to a world where everything is controlled by me - very unlike real life!!

lots of sympathy. I have never played the Sims, don't play comptuter games, only mumsnet, but it was your escape valve, your relaxation and one source of happiness for you. Just like lots of other hobbies. Your dh knew this, didn't he? Yet he thoughlessly spoiled it for you. Only you know how sorry he is, and if he is not, and has no empathy with you, then I think you have a right to be deeply livid.

Don't be ashamed of your hobbies and interests. Don't let him make you ashamed of them and tell you they don't matter.

If on the other hand, this was an act of passive aggression as someone else said, because your dh feels you spend too much time on the Sims, and if you know you do, then time to talk it over with him and do more things in real life.