Husband working away

[Lyn276]

Hi... I'm new here so hoping I've posted in right place. I'm looking for some advice on what I should do.

My husband works away, other side of the country. He comes home every second weekend. We have a one year old and he took this job just after baby was born. It has been very hard going being on my own so much but I've managed. My husband knows it has been hard and is looking for a job closer to home.

This time he has been away he has been out drinking and socialising a lot after work, I haven't heard much from him in evenings and it can be particularly lonely but his bosses were there and the whole company were going out so I bit my tongue. He was due home Friday night and I had a night out planned with my own work for a colleague retiring. He told me at 4.15pm he wasn't going to make it home as he had to work the Saturday. I was due to go out at 6, luckily my mum came round and looked after little one but meant I could only go for meal and couldn't have a drink as I did not want to be looking after child on my own with alcohol in system etc. On phone yesterday (Saturday) I explained my disappointment to him, told him I feel it's unfair he is able to go out when he likes but I couldn't go to one thing (I have only had one other night out since baby was born 15 months ago) he said he understood, was really sorry, knew it wasn't fair etc. However later on text me to say he was out for dinner and drinks and then didnt get in touch with me rest of the night.

I just feel completely disrespected. I'm on my own here looking after our child, I also work part time so I am doing my bit to pay bills too but feel like he thinks he can do as he pleases and doesn't give me second thought. Have also tried calling him multiple times and had no answer.

I'm really looking for advice. I feel like anything I say is falling on deaf ears as he agrees with me then does the opposite. His actions are speaking louder than his words.

I also came home to baby having sickness bug Friday night so had no sleep all weekend... he knows this and still goes out drinking.

I'm so angry. Sorry for the major rant.

I'm feeling like I'm in the same position. My husband is a tour manager. He stays out for a drink most nights with god knows who at the after parties. I'm at home with our child who catches a viral once a month at least and can't call him for advice or just someone to talk to. I get it must be lonely going back to an empty hotel room but at least they can go out for dinner when they're hungry or drinks when they're 'lonely' but us mums can't! Child's in bed by 7:30. That's our curfew, can't even pop over the shop if we run out of milk!! Sometimes I wish the roles were reversed and let's see if they like it or can cope!!!

Being "Lonely" working away to the extent you have to go out for drinks every night is a bit fucking pathetic when you have a wife and tiny DC back home. I worked away pre-DC and I didn't go out every night and managed to cope without this so called crippling "loneliness". Not to mention he is squandering your family money that he should be saving incase he has to take a lower paid job closer to home. I bet the mums left to do all the grunt work at home would love the chance to be "lonely" in a hotel room with no responsibilities or disruptions.

I understand if the bosses are over from America he'll have to show his face - but every night? No way on earth I would tolerate that. He's taking you for a mug OP.

It’s SEVEN years ago, people!

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