Sorry didn't mean to be so kind but guess I'm a bit frustrated.
I've been separated for five years and dated one person for 3 years in that time - really on and off though. He was single and no children and just couldn't ever understand the time my full time job and my 2DC took.
My exH and I get on v well and are absolutely co parenting our DC one with ASN. I'm 48 ok looking but nothing special, definitely could be slimmer and healthier but I'm alright. As a person I think I'm fine. I have friends and am friendly and fun. I like laughs and usual nights out in our cinema etc.
I've now been single nearly a year and would kind of like to be in relationship. But I have three problems I just can't get around. So help me MNetters.
- Time. I have a very very demanding full time job where I put in extra hours alongside having two kids. So even in time where kids with exDH I'm knackered / catching up on housework and ironing and sleep / or seeing friends.
- There are no men! I signed up to dating Site and all the men my age are looking for 35-40 and I'm just not prepared or willing to go with someone 55/60 who is looking for my age group. That seems to much age gap for me. Also No one has kids so they all want to go running/cycling /art galleries on Saturdays and spend lazy Sundays in pub after long walk up a mountain with espresso . Well thats great I'd like that but I'm either sleeping in morning or out with kids and ferrying to friends and activities or enjoying my time with them so ain't happening.
- I work in v large organisation in v small town. It's charity so we aren't well paid but I'm v senior. So people know me I don't know them. I haven't put photo on date site as I cannot stand the thought of bunch blokes I'm at meeting with and I'm senior to knowing I'm ' looking for love/shag/ mr right' depending on how they interpret. After month on site my profile could be crap but suspect lack of photo not helping. But being only average looking I don't think it would help me anyway.
What do I do?
I think just giving up and waiting a decade till kids grown and I have time and no ties and people may be not so bothered about looks but ok with finding a nice person to share date/life with is the place to be.
Just realise with job and commitments I have, a relationship is just too much to add on and wait it out.
Ironically of course I think a man in my position with my job and with my commitment to my kids would make me attractive to women and A catch and my average looks would be acceptable cos I'm fun.
Sadly it seems a woman really does need to have it all to get by.
Thoughts? Advice?
That you in advance lovely women - and occasional men.