I want revenge!!

[Wantsmyrevenge]

NC as this is outing.
Relationship with a guy who was basically a serial cheat, lied about everything and gave me a lovely STD. Due to some pretty silly (trusting and hopeful of a better future but with hindsight idiotic) decisions I also pretty much lost a lot of my life at the time. I'm rebuilding, but it's slow.
There was also some EA - making me out to be crazy, getting aggressive and threatening when caught and emotional blackmail. Luckily no children together but each has our own, mine more aware as older but not directly involved.
Up until 6 weeks ago he was still trying to contact me. Today I hear from a friend that he's seeing someone she knows and is doing the whole love bombing he did with me and various others.
I'm at a loss to explain how angry I am, and that I want to get in touch with this poor girl and warn her, she has kids too. I don't want to hurt her but by God I want to fucking ruin his cozy little relationship and life and yes, I want to do that for fucking revenge!
I won't, I absolutely won't contact her, and I've told the friend who told me it's none of my business because it isn't.
I'm so mad at myself for feeling this way? Why on earth do I care? I'm confused and I don't like it!

I know it's easier said than done but, the best revenge you can give is live your life and don't give him a second thought.

Block him on social media
Block her on social media
When your friends try to tell you the latest gossip on him, say your not interested.

Kungfu - thanks, he is blocked on everything, I had to change my phone number in the end to achieve it! I don't know her, she's some relation of a friend of my friend (not close friends, ex colleagues) and she said it in passing sort of thing. I was just relieved when the messages stopped. But this reaction has taken me by surprise, I'm still struggling to put my life back together and he's off duping someone else! I thought I was past being angry but apparently not.
Thanks for the reply

It's tough, but I think you need to try really hard to put up ways to protect yourself from hearing anything him. That's the trigger at the moment. Tell close friends not to talk to you about him & perhaps stay away from people who are currently in touch with him. This would only be temporary until you are truly over things.

I'd send her a message of warning. She'll probably still go ahead with her relationship but it may plant enough doubts to protect herself a bit.

The biggest advice I can give you is live your life . Please I wouldn't get in touch with other woman as his response would be you are a physical . I have worn your shoes a year ago . I am in a much better place then I worse , took along time . I don't miss the drama he caused and EA abuse . Good luck much love x

Physco!!! Sorry didn't proof read

You will just look like the bitter ex if you contact her. Its likely she won't believe you. I would feel like you do though. Why should he get to play happy families when he doesn't deserve it? He won't ever be happy though as he is clearly unable to stay faithful.

Write it all down OP then bin it or burn it. Get it out your system.
I felt this angry when my exh did the same....I wrote loads of stuff i hadn't been able to get out of my head about the bastard!

I did realise that the woman would probably not listen anyway because the exh would be telling her how mentally ill I was just like he told me his ex was....which was totally untrue.
The anger will subside but and then you will wake up one day and realise you haven't thought about him...that's when you know you're getting over it.

Thanks for all your replies, and for the kind words.
I honestly don't think messaging her is the way to go, as others have said it'll be written off as me being the psycho ex and bitter - to be honest I am bloody bitter but with good reason I think.
I'm just furious that he can leave a trail of devastated people behind him and just go on doing it with no consequences to him. He obviously knows he's in the wrong because so many things were kept from me about his life and past in the initial stages, and outright lied about too. I found out things in the last few months of our relationship that had I known earlier things would never have got as far as they did and he knew that so he lied.
I was warned, about a year in (living together at that point) by an ex he had also been sleeping with, she didn't know about me specifically, she just knew that he'd have someone on the go despite his denials. By this point I'd heard a year of how awful she was, how she wouldn't let him see the children, etc etc - all totally untrue. So yes, when she contacted me, after all his preparation, I did dismiss it as her being bitter. At the time it seemed to fit the pattern he'd created for her, if that makes sense. So it's a pretty good bet that he'll have done exactly the same with me, and probably her too, to cover his backside should one of us decide to warn her.
So like her I'd just come across as the pathetic jealous ex and it'd drive them closer together because he'd be all 'I told you what she's like' and I'd have played right into his hands.
I just want him to bear the consequences of his own actions instead of walking away and leaving everyone else to deal with it and moving on to another victim. As Anon said 'why should he get to play happy families when he doesn't deserve it' and that's exactly how I feel and what I want to wreck. But I won't, I just resent feeling so crap about it!
Butterfly - I'll give that a go, it sounds like a healthier way of getting rid of all these negative feelings than making myself look like the psycho ex!
Thank you all and I'm sorry for those of you that have also had to live through this. and to you.

Maybe contact the ex that tried to warn you and say she was right.

I'm just furious that he can leave a trail of devastated people behind him and just go on doing it with no consequences to him.

He won't. You may not ever know what they are, certainly he won't tell you, but he won't.

In the meantime, detach. You cannot control what other people do. You can control only what you do. So control not being controlled by this utter flesh waste. Leave him behind, make him irrelevant.

Or dig two graves.

I sent a warning message to someone whom my lying, ghosting, blowing-hot-and-cold shit of an ex had started seeing. She didn't respond, but I saw that she read it. I don't know whether she told him what I'd done, but I don't regret it.

I've gained a little perspective on it, did the suggestion of writing everything down and burning it, I don't honestly know if it's helped though.
I know he'll never care about what he did, and in effect if I message her the only outcome is me looking like the raging jealous ex and it may hasten what will happen anyway, when he fucks up sooner or later. But he's done this cycle so often that it doesn't bother him losing the relationship, because I suspect it's about the attention and not the actual person, so he's not bothered when it ends because there'll be another one soon if that makes sense.
I'm still furious but I don't think doing anything will help because even if she believed me and dumped him (outside chance I know) it would be just another one along shortly, and I'm sure as hell not spending the rest of my life ruining his relationships!
I'm just angry, but its a bit more organised.