Just been told I am a 'nasty bitch' and 'do everyone a favour and move out'

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...and he has gone off to his Mum's with his two favourite kids. Feel very shaky and can't stop crying. This behaviour has been going on for years, and I have been desperate to leave him since I was pregnant with our first child together (have two from a previous relationship that live with me FT and are adult). He has constantly put his parents and siblings before us, used my paying bills and working FT to squirrel away his own funds into a property portfolio 'for us' that I have no right to. In the past has been sexually abusive - since reading MN and looking at WA etc I just say no. I am now beyond caring and far more assertive, but this makes me 'unreasonable' and 'emotionally abusive'. I am just ranting really and don't know what I can achieve because he has all the financial power and we aren't married. He also threatens to take the kids and cites me as unfit because I drink. I sometimes have dreams of a lottery win or him coming to a sticky end...it's that bad.

So why don't you do yourself a favour and move out? With your children of course. It sounds as if you have your own money?

Sorry I can't offer advice, but did not want to read and run. Good luck - I really hope there is a way as it sounds horrible!

I used to have things like this from my xh.

I remember him saying once do everyone a favour and go and kill yourself. That was it for me.

It was only when I was out of the other side that I realised how abusive and toxic he actually was.
We are now separated (yet still living in same house, different rooms) which is a long story and is only going to last another year or so but it's so much better.

Thanks - I needed to get this off my chest. I am on a very low wage and blacklisted financially. Thinking that the next steps is to get some proper legal advice and line up a mediator. It's making me ill - mentally and physically. How on earth do you put up with somebody that has told you to kill yourself and know he has to be in your life because you have kids together? Mind you, it appears I have a similar burden to shoulder. Oh - and he told me to go and share all this nastiness with MN, and then threatened that HE is going to start blogging about ME. It is depressingly childish. Neither of us seem to be able to act like adults. Me like a teenager and him either a patronising father or a spoilt child (which he is)