I would have been with my now ex partner four years next month. We've had a difficult time since having our first daughter with one thing after another thrown at us but ultimately we got through it. We had just gotten a new home together, rented, but everything we had always wanted. Back in June when I was 6 months pregnant with our second child, i noticed his behaviour had changed. He became obsessed with his phone and started acting suspiciously. After a month of me trying to get the truth out of him and being branded a paranoid psycho and numerous other things I finally found out part of the truth. He had in fact been communicating with another woman. A colleague from his work. When I approached him with the fact i had found out he admitted the truth and told me what he was adminat was the whole story. He made his decision then that he was sorry and didn't want to loose me and wanted to try make things work. Over the next few weeks I learned new bits of information about the affair that he failed to come clean about in the first place each time he would apologise and insist I now knew everythIng. It was an extremely difficult few weeks as you can imagine. Anyway fast forward to this month, September. We had finally gotten to the point we no longer discussed the affair or even thought about it some days. We were getting on most of the time and everything seemed like normal. September the 3rd our beautiful baby girl was born. We spent one week at home settling in, then the second week visiting my family 3 1/2 hours away. We went on a night out just the two of us that week, discussed plans to visit family abroad a conversation initiated by him and discussed many things for the future that week. Everything in my head seemed tonne getting better. Back at home now for week three and he returns to work, and we settle back in at home. Again there's no falling out; everything seems normal if not perhaps a little exhausting. Then one day my world turned upside down again. We woke up like any other day, We chilled all morning as a family, i helped him get ready for work (it was a fancy dress day) and off he went. I had noticed for a few days he had seemed a little down so while he was In work I sent him a caring text asking if he was okay not anticipating his reply coming back as "something is just not right". That night he came home from work, sat me down and told me he was leaving. He was no longer happy, and while that wasn't my fault he had given us so many chances in his head to make things change but they never did and he never found the right moment to tell me so. He packed a bag that night, sat in the living room watched tv with me, woke up the next day played with our eldest then left for his mums. I was devastated. He was insistent that he was leaving me not the kids and that it was because he was unhappy and didn't like the person he had become not because he wanted to get with someone else. For a few days I begged for him to come home but to no avail. Then I returned to my families hours away to get some support for the week as I have no family and limited friends where we live. After a week of talking here and there via text and him videoing the kids. It has come to light that he has now began talking to this woman again though according to him nothin major. I am broken. Does this girl have no morals than to jump in to someone else's space so quickly especially given that I was walked out on by him with a toddler as a 3 week old. Does he have that little respect for me than to do this already? I'm returning home today so that he can see his kids on his days off as he can't possibly travel 4 hours there and back all the time to see them, but things are going to be really difficult for me. Being in our home I may no longer afford to live in, being completely alone down ther, all the while watching him move on to supposedly find himself again. He's still insistent he's leaving for the right reasons and his intentions are the best, but surely he can see how now talking to he less than a week later looks to everybody. I'm lost I don't know what to do, all I have done is be nice and think of him and the kids since he left because what else can I do? Everyone says I'm too soft but I can't be nasty to him without it having a knock on effect on the kids. HIs boss found out about their fling and stayed that if anything did continue that one of them could no longer work for him, but that hasn't stopped them talking. He's getting all his own way. Getting to leave for the life with little responsibility, not paying any bills for now, saving money, able to spoil himself with new clothes, nights out and no doubt a new car, seeing and talking to whomeever he wants including the girl he had a fling with all the while I'm stuck in our family home alone with the two kids, barely scraping by, not knowing whether I will get enough money to keep living there, never being able to move on and meet anyone because I have no life as his family weren't supportive babysitters while we were together let alone separated. None of this is fair, I'm going to face difficulty after difficulty time and time again these next few months while he has everything and he's the one in the wrong. It's too much to cope with. I need some words of wisdom please. ðŸ˜