6 years, 1 child later and 2 step children. There's been a lot of stress - illness, redundancy, money, death, you name it but everything has been stale for a couple of years. We separated early this year only to get back together for the sake of Ds. We've had sex twice in 6 months, no kissing, he doesn't tell me he loves me and says he finds me unattractive because I'm "fat" (weight gain due to medication from illness). I don't know what to do, he's my DS father and have tried so many times but nothing works. I feel like he can't stand me and constantly puts me down for example I don't do enough around the house even though I'm unwell and work full time. I've tried talking but he just ignores what I say.... feel so negative about myself